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Sparklysilversequins Fri 07-Mar-14 19:39:38

I have two dc with autism, a ds and a dd. Ds is 11 so too old to come in the female changing room but cannot use the men's alone, he needs help. Today at new swimming club we used the disabled changing rooms as directed by staff. So we locked ourselves in (as directed) showered and changed etc. Towards the end of the time we were in there someone started hammering really aggressively on the door, my dc were quite frightened by it in fact as it was so loud. I finished dressing and opened the door, an extremely aggressive woman burst though the door, I explained that my dc had autism and we had been told to use this changing room, she screamed "I don't give a fuck you stupid bitch my sons things are in here!" I replied "oh is he disabled?" "No but I want his fucking stuff, he's cold!" I asked her to stop screaming as she was frightening my children and she actually squared up to me and told me "don't fuck with me or I will fucking go!". I asked her if she was seriously threatening to fight me in front of all the children present? And then a poolside attendant came in and intervened. I left the room with my children.

It turns out that she had stored her child's things in that room although he had no disability and was furious at having to wait for so long to get it while I was sorting my dc out.

I left the room and requested of the desk staff that the police be called, a manager arrived and I had to fill in an incident form etc and by the time all that was done it seemed a bit pointless to call the police.

So what now? It seems to me that their disabled provision is extremely poor in that the disabled changing room is actually a thoroughfare to the pool, although you can lock the door at either end when in use. Throughout the time we were in there people were attempting access and knocking on the door. There seems to be nothing to prevent anyone from changing and storing their things in there even when they are not disabled.

It's left a really bad taste in my mouth tbh and I don't want to go back. Kids do though and it's actually a great place for THEM to socialise, no pressure, great pool etc.

What would you have done? Would you go back? What would you expect or request to happen now?

It's a Virgin Active btw, expensive and you'd expect first class facilities wouldn't you?

NurseyWursey Fri 07-Mar-14 19:42:29

I would have been tempted to strangle her with a pair of speedos but we're all adults here so...

I wouldn't have called the police but I would perhaps have made sure she would be banned from the baths.

Poor you and your children, hope you're okay. And don't worry about her, don't let her ruin your fun.

LaurieFairyCake Fri 07-Mar-14 19:43:42

I'd go back and do the exact same thing as you did.

With the added part of actually looking in the cubicle in case anyone had left anything and dumping it outside the door.

NewtRipley Fri 07-Mar-14 19:43:57

So she hammered on the door and you ignored her for a while, and she didn't ask for the clothes until you opened the door?

Did you notice the clothes in there?

Wantsunshine Fri 07-Mar-14 19:44:07

Wow she sounds crazy as bat shit and should have her membership revoked. Not sure the police could do anything. It's good the staff intervened and wrote an incident up. Poor you though that would have really shaken me up.

hiddenhome Fri 07-Mar-14 19:44:26

It's up to the pool management to enforce the disabled changing space.

Just think of the shouting woman as a cockroach because cockroaches will find their way into things they're not supposed to and generally make a nuisance of themselves.

KirjavaTheCat Fri 07-Mar-14 19:45:58

What a horrible twat, I hope you and the children aren't too shaken up.

I'd definitely complain to the manager about it being abused. The room can't possibly function as it needs to with people traipsing through it and using it as a locker. Not on.

Joules68 Fri 07-Mar-14 19:46:42

Not sure how it wAs a police matter...

Yes, your dc enjoy it, so why not go back? There's never an ideal place for disabled facilities as everyone has differing ideas of what works best

Sparklysilversequins Fri 07-Mar-14 19:47:27

There are lockers in there and the clothes were in there. The changing room and lockers are for disabled people, so she shouldn't have been using them at all.

I did tell the hammerer we would be out soon but could hardly open the door to all three of us in our Birthday Suits could I?

NewtRipley Fri 07-Mar-14 19:47:40

I have been known to put clothes outside a changing room if I can't see anyone around. It's not fair to "save" a changing room, especially a disabled one, especially of your DC isn't disabled

HadABadDay2014 Fri 07-Mar-14 19:48:21

I wish all disabled toilets and changing rooms had a radar key system.

DS is autistic and we have a radar key because he is unable to wait.

Sparklysilversequins Fri 07-Mar-14 19:48:35

She threatened to hit me. Got up into my face while squaring up to me. My sister said that was threatening behaviour.

NewtRipley Fri 07-Mar-14 19:48:49


X post. Just trying to get a picture.

She sounds really aggressive and unreasonable. I'd expect the staff to deal with her.

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