I should start by acknowledging that the problem is all mine. But I allowed it to snowball into a situation that I'm struggling to make peace with.
I started seeing this therapist because I have been having a hard time in a toxic work environment and was looking for help with that among other things. I felt it was very much a "safe place" for me to go and sort through things in an environment that was separate and detached from the rest of my life (work, husband, family, friends).
My close friend then, via email, asked for his number. And this is where I choked. I should have addressed it then by telling her that I felt weird about sharing the same therapist with her while I am still in therapy with him. But I ignored that particular email and she went ahead to find his number and she started to see him this week.
I know she has every right to see him if she needs to. But I really don't know what to do. I don't want to "share session stories" because its all very private for me at the moment. I know I wouldn't have a problem with her seeing him if I was no longer working with him but somehow this feels different. Sort of like dating the same guy or something. And this is where I know IABU - we are in a big urban centre and I just wish she had found a doctor of her own to go to.
At the moment, I'm trying to find a way forward by basically not engaging in discussions about her appointments outside of, "that's nice" or "sounds good". The hard part of me is that I care for my friend a great deal but this really bothers me and I don't know how to "get over it" which is really what I should just do. But I am interested in hearing different views on this as a (non) issue. Thanks for listening.
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To feel uncomfortable that my close friend chose to see the same therapist as me?
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cubiclejockey · 07/03/2014 18:31
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