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To ask my DP to give up his quiet night in so I can sniffle on his shoulder?

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Meatfeastpizza Fri 07-Mar-14 13:39:37

My DP and I live separately. He was planning a quiet night in doing his artsy nerdy thing and watching tv.
Fine. I don't begrudge him his space at all.
But I'm having a crappy time ATM, abusive ex still causing problems, my kids are a bit evil boisterous, I have horrible PMT which is magnifying everything. I just feel like shite and I've cried all day.
He's popping in after work to give me a breather so I can take a walk and get some peace from the kids, which is lovely of him.
But would I be unreasonable I ask him to stay so I don't have to be alone when I feel like this?

sheriffofnottingham Fri 07-Mar-14 13:49:12

I don't think so, if a snuggle will make you feel better I can't see why he'd begrudge you that.

word of caution though, I was feeling really grotty with PMT earlier in the week and DP came round to snuggle and make me pancakes, turns out what I actually wanted to do was have someone to take it out on, I shouted at the pancake batter and stormed off into the living room. Not my finest moment! but I had bought him some Lego the day before so had some brownie points in the bag

JeanSeberg Fri 07-Mar-14 13:54:09

Can't you spend some time together over the rest of the weekend?

You'll be seeing him for a portion of this evening so have your 'sniffle' with him, then get the kids in bed and enjoy a quiet evening with a book/film/TV/wine/whatever.

Gruntfuttock Fri 07-Mar-14 13:57:02

You bought your DP some Lego?

Doesn't he play with his wooden blocks anymore then? confused

Coumarin Fri 07-Mar-14 13:59:00

I don't think yabu at all.

However I would echo what Sheriff said and say that when I have pmt I'm better left alone. My patience levels are very low so I usually recognize the sighs and slope off to wallow on my own for a couple of hours.

Some rubbish tv, your favourite snacks and an enormous duvet might be what you need.

Coumarin Fri 07-Mar-14 14:00:31

*signs not sighs. Although there's some of those too.

ProfondoRosso Fri 07-Mar-14 14:04:15

If you're feeling sad rather than lose-your-temper-angry, I would say something to him. I hate being alone when I'm feeling down. It makes things seem so much worse.

Gruntfuttock, my DH buys me Lego! grin

sheriffofnottingham Fri 07-Mar-14 14:06:08

gruntfuttock yep, you should have seen his little face light up when he opened the box, kept him quiet for hours!

on a serious note, Lego is brilliant!

SirChenjin Fri 07-Mar-14 14:10:01

Why would it be unreasonable? confused

If the person you love is feeling down and in need of company, surely you don't mind being there for them?

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