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When do people usually send out wedding invites ?

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pussycatdoll Fri 07-Mar-14 12:21:38

So if a wedding was in July when would you expect to receive an invite ?

pussycatdoll Fri 07-Mar-14 12:22:34

Oops thought posted in chat
Anyway what do you all think ?

2rebecca Fri 07-Mar-14 12:23:49

I sent out mine as soon as we had sorted out the details and guest list. It's impossible to give a date answer as I have no idea how far on the couple in your question are with their arrangements.

2rebecca Fri 07-Mar-14 12:24:34

This isn't an AIBU though so more appropriate in chat unless you reframe the question.

TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals Fri 07-Mar-14 12:26:50

3 months to 6 weeks. 6 weeks is tradition but most are before then if no save the dates have been sent.

AdventColander Fri 07-Mar-14 12:28:01

I would send them out ASAP.

NoArmaniNoPunani Fri 07-Mar-14 12:28:31

We sent ours 6 months before.

worriedsister30 Fri 07-Mar-14 12:28:50

Six weeks is tradition but that thought terrified me! We planned our wedding in six months so no time for save-the-dates. We sent the date out to everyone who we REALLY wanted there on text, then sent the invites out about three months in advance

MyNameIsKenAdams Fri 07-Mar-14 12:30:32

In Jauary I received an invite for May, so for July id say by the end of this month.

Lj8893 Fri 07-Mar-14 12:33:19

I have just recieved an evening invite for a wedding in July. I'm getting married in July next year and will probably send invites out in march/April.

MrsSteptoe Fri 07-Mar-14 12:47:45

As PPs have said, six weeks is traditional, because it's just too long to have those thick, white cards cluttering up your chimneypiece otherwise... Seriously, if you're sending out formal invites, I would stick to the six week rule, but there's nothing to stop you emailing people with the date before that and saying that formal invites will follow in due course?
A lot depends on how early you want people to commit to coming, of course. I suspect one reason for the six week tradition is because it allows people to be reasonably certain that they are able to attend; six months, and I'd be prepared for a few drop-outs nearer the time.

ArsePaste Fri 07-Mar-14 12:58:13

Depends if you're expecting your guests to travel - six weeks isn't nearly enough notice for people to arrange time off work, trains, and hotels for the best prices etc. A relative is currently arranging their wedding for the other end of the country, in June, and still hasn't confirmed the date, or the details of the ceremony (and, tbh it's pissing me off, as I need to know the time of the ceremony so I know if I need one night in a hotel, or two, and if I need two nights, I need a day off work, as well). Plenty of notice of those sorts of details is always appreciated, even if you don't actually physically get the invites out until nearer the ceremony time.

pussycatdoll Fri 07-Mar-14 13:26:31

that's what i was thinking arsepaste
we know the date but not the venue
we know it's 4 hours away
don't know if kids are invited so need to arrange gps to look after kids if not for a whole weekend
def need more than 6 weeks to do all the above!

ArsePaste Fri 07-Mar-14 14:55:03

I am really fucked off with this couple, especially as the week they've chosen is the week we normally go on holiday which means I have to now wait till November for my annual break (work commitments mean I have even more limited options for holidays than teachers do!), and they can't even get their thumbs out of their arse to let us know when it is! Best part of �500 this will cost us, even before new outfits, or a present or anything, and they can't even get Save the Dates out? :headdesk: Even online would be helpful! Bah. And, I suspect that we're just evening guests, whereas the inlaws we'll be travelling with are all-day ... Don't mind an evening only invite, but let me plan it, dammit!

I did an online save the date six months in advance and got the actual invites out four months beforehand for my wedding last year.

HungryHorace Fri 07-Mar-14 15:09:12

We had to pay the balance - and therefore know the numbers - 6 weeks' prior. We also gad people coming from the other side of the world, so we sent them 6 months' prior.

TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals Fri 07-Mar-14 15:28:03

Wow Arse why don't you just call? Or just book a holiday as you're not currently booked in and then say you can't make it.

ArsePaste Fri 07-Mar-14 15:51:56

It's a big family do, we ALL know it's happening in a particular week, but it's not my side of the family, alas. My DH is listening to my issues with not knowing the details, and then not talking to the in-laws. Whilst I love the in-laws (and I do), it's his job to deal with them, and my job to deal with mine. If we book a holiday now, it'll look like a deliberate snub. I've already been sending the bride FB messages like a demented person, and she won't confirm anything beyond a "soon! Hubs is dealing with it!" thing.

Seminyak Fri 07-Mar-14 15:59:16

6 weeks but we'd already sent a save the date

ProlificPenguin Fri 07-Mar-14 17:06:54

The wedding etiquette people say 8-6 weeks before. I think we were about six weeks and we sent out the save the date cards six months before.

betman Fri 07-Mar-14 17:08:38

We sent ours out really early as almost everyone needed to travel/ stay in a hotel. We have had a save the date for May and would like formal invite soon so we can book hotel etc, but nothing yet.

Pobblewhohasnotoes Fri 07-Mar-14 17:10:31

We sent ours early as we had to confirm numbers six weeks before.

pussycatdoll Fri 07-Mar-14 17:12:09

Often they block book rooms for family don't they so we'll be madly searching for a premier inn

meditrina Fri 07-Mar-14 17:13:07

Six weeks for the formal stiffie.

Telling your intended guests by other means, whenever you like and think helpful.

purpleroses Fri 07-Mar-14 17:16:28

I don't think it's rude to drop them a quick email to say you're hoping to come and just want to know whether you should be booking your parents in to have the kids, or whether it's likely they'd be included really. Especially if it's during the school holidays as most people will need lots of notice if they're to avoid clashing with family holidays.

60sname Fri 07-Mar-14 19:31:27

Ours went out a couple of weeks ago for wedding at the end of May. Save the dates were end August tho.

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