I've been divorced for 10 years, remarried for nearly 5. I am expecting my third child, life is full, DS from 1st marriage is 12, DD from current marriage, and the very last one :-), is coming up on 4. We've moved on, ex and I and get along very well. We don't hang out and have chats on the phone. It's not about us. But he's very good with DS. He's not got set times to see DS as ex's lifestyle is a bit, shall we say, 'free' and unscheduled. He lives by his own set of rules and does his own thing. It's not my place to tell him how to live or how to be as a dad. I am well, well beyond all of that. He's really nice to our son and loves him dearly, he's a free spirit. He's been away,traveling and exploring. And he's sort of gotten into this habit of 'popping in' to visit during the week, which is just so incredibly inconvenient. He just doesn't get 'family dinners', 'homework', 'bat and bed'. Our son doesn't get home until 5:30 every evening. The visits are not frequent at all, but I get totally stressed when he says he would like to come over and spend time with our son and show him how to do something, teach him something. It drives my husband bonkers! I don't blame him. He comes in at say 7:30 and does not want to have my ex sitting here chatting, drinking tea and hanging out. I find it all uncomfortable and I don't know how to set a boundary without being offensive. Advice from any 'been there/done that' parents? Thanks!
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
To feel a bit stressed by ex's 'pop in' visits?
5 replies
deelite72 · 07/03/2014 11:04
OP posts:
MatryoshkaDoll ·
07/03/2014 11:17
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.