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To not send dd to preschool?

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BananaPie Thu 06-Mar-14 21:03:21

Dd is three, so I think could start preschool this sept.

She's in nursery three days a week while I work, and is in the preschool room there. Everyone keeps asking me which preschool she'll be going to, but I'm planning just to keep her in nursery and enjoy my two days with her on my non working days.

In NI if that makes any difference. Preschool seems to be more of a "thing" here than it does in England.

Am I setting her back for life?

WaitMonkey Fri 07-Mar-14 09:58:24

My pre schooler doesn't go to nursery or pre school. Everyone judge's that. But we go to lot's of groups, meet up with friend's, do lots of activities outside the home and have lot's of fun in the house. People still think I'm stunting his development though. hmm You can't win in my opinion. Stick to what you and your lo enjoy.

BananaPie Fri 07-Mar-14 09:52:12

Thanks. By nursery I mean day care, and I meant keeping her in day care until she goes to school. They're qualified in early years education, so I think it should be fine. Good point about the age range at mums and tots groups that I take her to if everyone else her age is in preschool next year.

Home education isn't on the cards at all - I can't see any advantages in that!

NoodleOodle Thu 06-Mar-14 23:45:00

Do what pleases you, you don't have to send her anywhere. If you enjoy spending more time with her and teaching her yourself, when she's a little older, have you considered not registering her at school and home educating ?

Sharaluck Thu 06-Mar-14 23:20:59


That sounds like a nice balance smile

I think it would be confusing for a 3 year old to have to get used a nursery as well as a preschool with completely different routines/carers.

wigglesrock Thu 06-Mar-14 23:05:11

The forms for applying to nursery schools had to be to the first choice nursery school by the second week in January. Places have been like hens teeth over the past few years. I'm in Belfast so that might be very localised, but three years ago when my second daughter was applying children were being offered places twenty miles away.

Ghostsdonttalk Thu 06-Mar-14 22:56:57

I would check If the primary you want has a nursery unit. We are in rural NI Dd went to preschool and then went in P1 as one of 26. The other 25 had been to nursery in the school together. She settled in fine but thats hard for a 4 yr old.

PicaK Thu 06-Mar-14 22:56:24

Funny - my understanding is that a preschool will stick to the EY curriculum, so mark making not writing etc. The nursery kids have been pushed more to write etc. Our preschools are completely separate to a school.

RiverTam Thu 06-Mar-14 22:54:47

oh, sorry, just saw OP is in NI, ignore me!

RiverTam Thu 06-Mar-14 22:54:07

in England attendance at the school's nursery/pre-school class has no bearing on whether or not you'll get into the primary school (or at least it's not meant to, though as they ask what nursery your child is at on the form, I guess it may well do!).

Purplepoodle Thu 06-Mar-14 22:50:09

Check out what your chosen schools entry criteria is. If your not in a city then it won't matter but it's murder getting 1st choice primary places in Belfast.

Purplepoodle Thu 06-Mar-14 22:47:44

Preschool here is a group run by someone with an early years degree.
Nursery has to be run by a qualified teacher. They are funded differently but teach the same age children and provide the same service. Daycare is also called nursery but the term day care is more accurate.

wigglesrock Thu 06-Mar-14 22:44:59

Do you mean you mean sending her somewhere now before she starts nursery school in September or do you mean not sending her to nursery school in Sept but keeping her in the private nursery she's in now?

I'm in NI too & have a 3 year old, I'm just not really sure what exactly you mean.

I know lots of kids who went from their daycare into P1, they were grand.

Purplepoodle Thu 06-Mar-14 22:44:24

Only problem that could come up is that you might not get her into the primary if your choice as some give their p1 places to the children that attended their nursery. This happen to us and we only managed to get a place as 2 kids dropped out and dc was on the preschool waiting list so fitted the criteria more,

RiverTam Thu 06-Mar-14 22:39:59

there are no teenagers at DD's nursery - all fully, or partly and attending college, qualified in early years. No actual teachers though, which I'm glad about - time enough for teaching when she starts school!

Twilightsparklesmama Thu 06-Mar-14 22:37:28

My DDs preschool offers 2 sessions a day with the option of them staying for lunch. My DD does the 2 sessions two days a week and just the morning session one day a week. All the children who are there in the afternoon have been there since the morning so the afternoon session is tailored to that.

My DD was in nursery for 6 months before Pre school as I went back to work. I do think that the Pre school is a better foundation to prepare for school. It runs in sessions whereas the nursery had children starting /leaving at all different times, all the children are a similar age and it is connected to the infant school she will be going to.

This works great for me as I have her all day on my days off

Has made school holidays a PITA a year earlier though.

MaryWestmacott Thu 06-Mar-14 22:24:12

DS does his preschool at nursery - if they are doing the Early Years Curriculm then your DD is getting all she'd get at preschool there. The 15 hours free thing works out at 5 half day sessions, if she's at nursery 3 days a week then she's getting 6 half day sessions, so don't feel she's missing out. The answer to enquiries is "oh, she's doing preschool at [name of nursery]"

One word of causion, you might find that everyone else you know is doing 5 half days rather than any full days, this means that on the days you have DD on your own, there's not much going on for her age group. I really noticed that when we went to groups in the mornings of DS's non-nursery days, there were now no DCs my DS's age there and most classes (sports etc) for his age group are in the afternoons now, as most half day pre-schools are in the mornings.

spiderlight Thu 06-Mar-14 22:14:10

My DS never went to preschool. He did two mornings at nursery from 2.5, rising to three mornings from 3.5, and positively thundered into school at 4.5 without any problems whatsoever. He was perhaps slightly behind some of his peers in terms of pencil control and number formation in his first couple of months of Reception, but was in the 'more able and talented' group by the second term and has never looked back. I'm very glad I had those precious days with him before he started school, to tootle around and look at diggers and throw sticks into streams.

TamerB Thu 06-Mar-14 22:10:10

It really doesn't matter- do what suits you.

morethanpotatoprints Thu 06-Mar-14 22:08:17

Hello OP

None of mine went to nursery, pre school and dc3 doesn't go to school.
They have all turned out fine.
I don't buy this one size fits all assumption at all.
You do what's right for you and what suits your opinion and values.

edwinbear Thu 06-Mar-14 22:05:58

Just to add, DS only ever went to nursery, then straight to school last September. He is a late August child so youngest in his year, and is getting on absolutely fine, no problems at all.

bobot Thu 06-Mar-14 22:05:37

I'm confused by the terms here - I understand "pre-school" as being a part time class within a school for children aged 3-4, and "nursery" as being a childcare setting from birth - school age? That's how the terms are used round here, is it different in different parts of the country. Either way, I send my dd to a class within a school but only 2 mornings a week.

edwinbear Thu 06-Mar-14 22:03:54

DD and DS used to go to a nursery near my work. When DS started school they both left nursery and started with a local CM who does the school runs/wrap around care for DS and looks after DD for the entire day. We will continue with that arrangement until DD joins her brother at school. With DH and I both working long hours, and the CM doing one other school run to a different school, the logistics of starting DD in a pre-school on top would be enough to make me spontaneously combust.

BananaPie Thu 06-Mar-14 22:03:45

Thanks, that's all very reassuring! I think the free 15 hours is different in NI than in England (we'll miss out on it by keeping her in nursery). But as others have said, preschool doesn't really work as childcare - we'd have to pay for wrap around care on the days I work.

I do take the point about proper teachers vs. teenagers working in nurseries, but I'm pretty happy with what she's being taught at nursery at the moment.

TerraNotSoFirma Thu 06-Mar-14 22:00:29

DD went three days a week, I've upped it to four for this term as she starts primary one after the school holidays.
I work weekends and loved the two days I had her all to myself. (y'know mostly)They get swallowed up into the school system all too soon. Enjoy them being small for as long as you can.

arethereanyleftatall Thu 06-Mar-14 21:45:01

I know not everyone can do this, but one of the reasons I stopped working when DD was 2.5 was so that she could attend the preschool near us when she was 3 for 3 hours per day, then with me for the rest.
the major difference for me us that preschool has a 'proper' teacher, whereas nursery (the one near me, not all!) Was basically just teenagers.

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