I live in a shared house and broke up with my ex of three years last summer, at the time he was living here too on the couch. He is an alcoholic and heavy drug user, mentally and physically abusive, never worked and so I had to pay for everything, emotional affairs: basically hugely unpleasant. During our relationship I was also a bad girlfriend and so depressed I was suicidal at times. It took me a long time and a lot of mental upset to break up with him because I stupidly felt I could help him.
Now I have moved on, am doing a lot better at work and being a good friend, have dated a couple of lovely guys and feel generally incredibly happy.
My housemate is still friends with my ex which is fine - we have a lot of mutual friends and I see no point in making them take sides. Sometimes I see him socially and it's ok, but I still don't want to be friends with him. He was messaging me a few weeks ago saying he loves me (I ignored) despite apparently dating someone else. A few days ago he came to dinner with my housemate, I kept out of the way, then without asking her or me tried to spend the night on the couch. I said he had to leave and after a big argument and my housemate backing me up he did. He has since sent me passive aggressive texts and and my housemate is making me feel guilty about it too.
AIBU to not want him sleeping in my house?
I actually don't even want him here at all. I don't want to feel stressed out and guilty about him ever again.
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Zeeeon · 05/03/2014 08:02
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