AIBU to want to clean my house from top to bottom...

[Sortyourmakeupout]

Once this child has gone home.

Feel so sorry for her, she is filthy.

I know her mother, tho not well. Just doing her a last minute favour minding the young one.

Her house is filthy. You wouldn't drink a cup of tea there.

[scarletforya]

The poor child.

[MaidOfStars]

A little bit. Presumably said child hasn't managed to contaminate every surface. Poor thing.

[whitepuddingsupper]

Could you invent a toileting accident and bath the child and put her in clean clothes?

[whitepuddingsupper]

(Not for your house's sake by the way, for the child's own comfort)

[melonribena]

Poor child. Could the stay at your house not involve a bath?

[itiswhatitiswhatitis]

I think you sound a bit OTT. If their situation is as dire as you say my first worry wouldn't be cleaning my house

[Sortyourmakeupout]

My daughter is changed every day after school so I just asked the little one if she wanted to get changed too and she could pick something.

Am going to tell her mother I put her track suit in with my daughters by mistake.

I know I sound like a bitch writing this but honestly if you saw her you would feel sorry for her.

She smells too.

I picked her sister up earlier this week and as soon as she got into the car I could smell her.

[Sortyourmakeupout]

I would never bath anyone else's child.

[Sortyourmakeupout]

It's not my first worry believe me.

If you could see her you would agree with me I think.

[VampyreofTimeandMemory]

why don't you actually help somehow?

[Sortyourmakeupout]

How can I help?

I think her mother is just plain lazy.

[AdoraBell]

How old is she? I wouldn't invent an accidente in case she tells her Mum that there wasn't any accidente and doesn't know why she had a bath.

It could alianate the mother. I had a friend who used To babysit for Drs and once cleaned the cooker because she was bored. Found the hob was actually white and not Brown as she had thought. She was never asked To babysit again.

[Sortyourmakeupout]

I don't know if they have intervention.

I could offer my help to her mum. Would be only too happy to, but how do you offer someone a hand to clean their house without offending them?

[Sortyourmakeupout]

Adora, she is five.

[Owllady]

What a shame, that sounds very difficult :(
I assume school are aware?

[AdoraBell]

Yes, it can be very difficult offering To help. And she is too young To be expected To see the problem and/or keep herself clean if she is accustomed To not washing.

Could you do little things like washing hands before eating? Literally babysteps that Hopefully won't be misconstrued as interfering.

[Sortyourmakeupout]

When she has used the bathroom I have double checked that she has washed her hands.

Am asking my own children also as I wouldn't want her to feel singled out.

[InternetFOREVER]

Whatever the reason her mum doesn't seem to be coping, this is neglect. Could you speak to the school tomorrow and ensure that their child protection officer is on the case? Otherwise you should really contact social services so that they can offer the family some support.

[Catsmamma]

there's basic needs being neglected if the children are stinking....I'd speak to the school and the local Health Visitor

[Sortyourmakeupout]

I think school might be a good place to start.

[WilsonFrickett]

For a five year old to smell, there has to be something wrong. Unless a) parents smoke in the house which can make clothes smell bad or b) they're having problems drying their clothes properly which can lead to that fusty smell. Obviously neither of those situations are ideal, but they're not massive problems.

But if it's the child herself who smells then it is a massive issue and I think you should start with a confidential talk to the school. Poor wee mite.

[Sortyourmakeupout]

Yes her mum smokes in the house.

It's not smoke she smells of though. She smells dirty and she looks filthy. Even get school bag is black with dirt. Her lunch bag doesn't look it has been washed in a long time as the strap is filthy.

Poor little mite is right.

I will talk to school this week.

[melonribena]

Good idea to talk to the school. It sounds like they need someone to look out for them

[Floggingmolly]

If it's that bad you'd expect school to have already noticed? Poor kid