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to be fuming with my d(not) h?

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dizzy101 Fri 28-Feb-14 19:58:16

Background we moved to a different country 2years UK I worked 5_6 days a week. We have been together 16 Years and have 3 dd. Last 6months been very hard, we behind rent, bils etc. Today he got good wage and spent 7EUR pair of trainers and 50EUR Tommy Hilfiger t shirt? 2weeks ago I was cashiny up penny to buy bread. He say he earns it so can spend how he wants. He says he sick off doing everything for us all get nothing in return even though I cook, clean etc, and get up hour earlier than I need to to make his pack lunch

AgentZigzag Fri 28-Feb-14 20:00:34

Any chance of moving back to the UK?

Can't see why you'd want to stay with such a man.

Thattimeofyearagain Fri 28-Feb-14 20:02:13

Has he always been a twat ?

ISeeYouShiverWithAntici Fri 28-Feb-14 20:08:59

What a twat.

essentials first. Always.

what kind of arse prioritises a pair of stupid shoes above the roof over their family's head? Wtf is WRONG with him? Really?

dizzy101 Fri 28-Feb-14 20:09:52

No only been that last couple months!very confused cos he like different person,, making me feel so small right now. Would move back but put so much into kids settling in here.

plum100 Fri 28-Feb-14 20:11:02


dizzy101 Fri 28-Feb-14 20:13:14

Isee exactly my thought.I'm seeing red lights here. Apparently I'm a moaning whinging cow!

dizzy101 Fri 28-Feb-14 20:15:04

Isee exactly my thought.I'm seeing red lights here. Apparently I'm a moaning whinging cow!

Justnapping Fri 28-Feb-14 20:20:05

Tommy Hilfiger t-shirt?! Is it 1999!? No but seriously this is completely unacceptable and terrible behaviour. Do you have a joint account?

dizzy101 Fri 28-Feb-14 20:23:26

Justnapping he gets paid cash self_employed and money has alwaysjust been our money.when in UK and both worked always just pooled money together

RhondaJean Fri 28-Feb-14 20:25:51


Stop now.

Don't wash, clean or make food for him. If you shop, buy for you and the kids. Not him.

Tell him you are sick of doing everything for him and getting nothing in return too.

Is there any chance of you getting work where you are? Does he perhaps hate the new job? Not that that's an excuse.

Pobblewhohasnotoes Fri 28-Feb-14 20:28:48

Stop making his lunch, stop doing his washing. Have you spoke to him properly? His behaviour is unacceptable. If it continues, leave. You don't need to be treated like this and neither do your kids.

Amandine29 Fri 28-Feb-14 20:29:54

If his behaviour has changed in the last few months is there any chance he's having an affair? (Sorry)

ISeeYouShiverWithAntici Fri 28-Feb-14 20:30:07

Well, now you know the core of him. Who he is when you rely on him.
It's not pretty.

dizzy101 Fri 28-Feb-14 20:31:17

Rhonda yes he hates job but he pushed to move here. I would love to work but there is nothing here for me, he moans, whines and doesn't even want hear about my day. I'm worry myself sick about bills etc and he does this

Pobblewhohasnotoes Fri 28-Feb-14 20:32:53

So he hates his job and is taking it on you?

Pobblewhohasnotoes Fri 28-Feb-14 20:33:05


dizzy101 Fri 28-Feb-14 20:33:40

Thought about affair would make sense

RhondaJean Fri 28-Feb-14 20:38:58

I can see a couple of possible reasons.

Hates job, resents you because he thinks you have it easy.


Hates jobs feels guilty because he wanted to move takes it out on you.

Is a twat.

None are good enough but some are workable through? If you want?

KurriKurri Fri 28-Feb-14 20:39:14

Sorry red lights for me - not caring about family, saying he can spend money how he wants, sick of doing everything hmm, insulting you. I had about six months of exactly that behaviour then my STBXH ran off with a woman he'd been having an internet affair with.

Men having affairs are nasty to their wives so they can justify their bad behaviour in their heads.

Sorry to suggest this -but I wish I had been warned, - hope it is not the case with your H, but he sounds pretty unpleasant, and very like my X.

dizzy101 Fri 28-Feb-14 20:40:06

Also 3weeks ago he had thrush, I didn't. Don't know much about it but I'm 39 and never had it. Could this be a sign

Pobblewhohasnotoes Fri 28-Feb-14 20:42:20

I didn't think thrush was an sti. I mean, women get it all the time. It's a yeast infection.

RhondaJean Fri 28-Feb-14 20:46:15

It's not an Sti as such but can be passed partner to partner which is why when you have thrush you treat your partner as well.

I've given it to DH before. It's happened in me due to an imbalance in yeast but then can be infectious. I think it's reasonably unusual, although not impossible, for men to take it without being infected.

KurriKurri Fri 28-Feb-14 20:46:18

Are you sure it was thrush he had?

dizzy101 Fri 28-Feb-14 20:55:18

Yes defo apparently cos we only have sex 1-2 times a week I'm shaggingthe postman etc, to me you accuse cos you are guilty?

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