Am a regular who has NC for this.
I have recently got to know the mother of one of DD's friends. We are amicable and see quite a lot of each other as our DC are good friends but she's not someone I would naturally have "chosen" as a friend IYSWIM. She is a nice person but doesn't work, was signed off sick quite a while ago and has since recovered enough to go back but decided she wanted another baby so hasn't made any plans to go back, which is fine, but she is quite critical of me for choosing to work. She can also be the kind of person where there's always something wrong, she's not happy unless there's some kind of drama which I am not always comfortable with so although I'm always nice and polite to her, I think she considers me a better friend than I do her, so she tells me quite a lot of things about her.
Anyway she got married a couple of years ago and has been trying for a baby recently. Her DS from a previous relationship is 6 and has wanted a sibling for ages. Unfortunately her DS is a bit of a worrier and has been school-refusing recently for reasons such as he doesn't want his mum to be lonely at home on her own during the day or he's worried that she might get ill and no-one would be able to help her. He is getting better at going to school but still occasionally has little "wobbly" moments. He is the most sensitive child I know and gets very upset about the smallest things. Family deaths etc have left him devastated before and having to be off school for long periods of time.
This week she took me to one side on the school run and said that she is 7 weeks pregnant, to which I said congratulations. She then told me that she'd been bleeding and although she'd had a scan that had showed all was ok, the doctors couldn't be certain that things would continue well and that they seemed quite concerned at the amount of bleeding. She then said that she'd told her DS that she was pg as she thought she may get morning sickness and didn't want to have to lie to him about it by saying it was a tummy bug or anything. DS then joined in the conversation, all excited, telling me he was going to have a little brother or sister and the exact size the baby was this week.
Although I'm really happy for her, I just feel horrified that she's told her DS so early, especially since the pregnancy has not run 100% smoothly so far. AIBU to think that it would have been a better idea to have waited a few more weeks before saying anything? I feel really awful and judgy writing this and I know it's her news to share with whom she wants, when she wants but...it's just all the "what ifs" that worry me and how that little boy might feel :(
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NorthernLassie724 · 28/02/2014 15:43
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