So it's half term this week here and me and DH somehow managed to get a few hours to ourselves our youngest two were in playdates and my eldest two were at out neighbours house helping out.
So we were watching tv on the sofa together when my mum walked in and shouted 'what the hell are you doing' I told her to calm down we were just sitting together. She said she could see that and it was disgusting. I said she was being silly we were just sitting here doing nothing and she needed to calm down.
She grumbled and said she was fed up of my backchat. I ignored her.
Then she asked where the DCs had gone. I explained to her and she said that it was just like me to get rid of my DCs and she never abandoned me or my brother. I told her they were happy and to just leave it. She got upset saying they couldn't be happy in school and I was a lazy mum for leaving them there. (She home educated me and my DB and thinks schools are substandard compared to her teaching)
I ignored her again because I have had this argument many times before and I didn't want to have it again.
A little later and whilst she was 'going to the toilet' she found DDs school bag which 'fell' open and she saw some of DDs work. DD is struggling with learning the alphabet so the teacher had sent back some of her work to show us were she was going wrong and some activities to do in the week. My mum just wouldn't shut up about how this was my fault and the schools fault and she was disgusted with me for letting my DCs down.
In the end I got annoyed and told her to go if it upset her that much. She left saying that she hated me and she was fed up of my stupidity.
An hour ago my mum's DH rang our house saying I had really upset her and she couldn't sleep and if I was mean to her again I would have to answer to him. I told him that my mum was unreasonable and he said that I was in the wrong because she wanted the best for my DCs.
So was I being unreasonable because other than the part when I got angry with her I don't think I am in the wrong and yet when things like this happen it's always me who has bullied my poor mum.
So I am throwing it to you AIBU?
AIBU?
Was I wrong or was my mum
6tantrumsaday · 24/02/2014 20:50
YABU - next time you should be having mad passionate sex on the rug rather than sitting watching TV. That would give her something to talk about. 
Seriously though, WTF? Your mother sounds completely unhinged. Of course YANBU!
I used to tell her when I was a teenager and she used to call me stupid that it had to be her fault because she educated me and she gave birth to me so it wasn't fault.
She walked into my house because that's just what she does if the door is open. Though needless to say she doesn't have a house key.
saucyjack and backwardposson
I think I should do that next time. I don't think she would be able to look me in the eyes again.
She does tend to speak to me like that if we aren't in public.I guess I am used to it now and I usually just ignore it.
Chain or bolt on the door. Or change the friggin locks!
Sounds like she doesn't see you as an adult, really. 'Backchat' is something a dependent child night give a parent (and even then it's a bit too dismissive for my tastes), certainly not a grown woman with husband and kids of her own, IN HER OWN HOME.
Definitely time to set some boundaries 
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