Ever, to anyone really, but specifically not to DH's relatives, who are the only ones likely to ask!
BIL has a history of crappy money management and jetting off abroad with his GF while leaving PIL to deal with his bills from their tiny pension. He also gets all sorts of unrealistic "business" ideas and asks for "investments". He's also the type to either mysteriously be drawn to the crappiest landlords ever, or (as I suspect) is a crappy tenant who gets himself into arrears and trouble with perfectly normal landlords.
So far we've done okay avoiding loaning him money or guaranteeing his rent - we've been able to say quite honestly that we can't afford to, and last time he moved we didn't own our own property. Now we do. He's having to move soon. I can feel it coming.
But DH loves his baby brother and is a total softy and I know he'll find it very hard to say no and he'll think we have no options but to help if we can because we've also received help when we were in a tight situation. AIBU to not want any kind of financial ties with this kind of a person?! And how can we say no without wrecking our relationship with the whole family (because, you know, BIL is the baby and people need to be nice to him...) ?!
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To not want to be a guarantor?
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NCSpanner · 24/02/2014 18:22
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