Dp and I have a 7 year old, two 6 year olds and a 20 month old between us. He works long hours but also has at least three days off out of every seven. My issue is regarding our toddler. I take her to the park, toddler group, the library, soft play, the farm and so on on my days with her. We also spend time at home reading, playing and painting/drawing and out walking our dog. She doesn't watch tv as I hate kids programmes and personally prefer all the other things we do, and think they're better for her.
When dp is off I work from home and he has dd. He usually takes her round shops and to MacDonalds, before driving with her til she naps. He then returns when she wakes, which is usually after she hasn't had a sufficient nap as the cold/wind/other cars etc wake her. In the evening when I go to read with our elder dd I ask toddler dd if she'd like daddy to read to her, and leave them doing so. But within two minutes they're downstairs watching tv. It's then up to me to settle her to sleep (she would never tolerate dp doing this) and I have said that watching tv means she takes longer to settle, but he still does it. I've said taking her to MacDonalds so often makes her fussy with food and cry for it if we drive past, but he still takes her there every time he has her.
My friend said he just has a different way of doing things but I think it's copping out to pretty much just pass time with her, doing whatever keeps her quiet (MacDonalds and tv) rather than properly interact and parent her. Aibu?
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terrificallytremendous · 23/02/2014 22:15
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