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AIBU?

to want to use my own driveway?

19 replies

LifeIsButtercream · 23/02/2014 15:58

Urgh, petty I know but I'm getting earache over this!

Basically I live on a road without footpaths, and my driveway is at a funny angle.

I don't own a car but I have car driving visitors on a daily basis most days.

Several of my neighbours have taken to parking opposite the entrance of my drive, which technically doesn't block the road but makes turning into my drive very difficult when people need to access it. I've spoken to my neighbours who laughed it off and said it would be easy to turn into my drive (they haven't tried it) - and yes technically after a good few minutes of revving and inching and shifting I've seen someone manoeuvre a regular sized car into my drive, but two of my regular visitors have not massive but longer cars and there just isn't the room to turn in safely.

Anyhow, I've been polite, I've not been aggressive and I try to ignore their parking as much as I can, but any notes I leave on the bonnet get ripped up and put through my door, if I've had to go round and ask for access I've been huffed, sighed and eye rolled.....

AIBU? There are other places they can park on this road, they have a driveway (but own more than one car I think) - is it so bad for me to want to use my drive?

Feel free to slap me down, I'm just fed up as I get moaned at by my neighbours for annoying them and moaned at by my visitors!

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LizLemonaid · 23/02/2014 16:00

Could u say "id hate to accidentally scrape somebody's car"

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LizLemonaid · 23/02/2014 16:02

Oh sorry it is your visitors that would hate to accidentally scratch their car.
Even better Wink

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LifeIsButtercream · 23/02/2014 16:03

I've tried that one lol, they persist in saying there is space

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YouStayClassySanDiego · 23/02/2014 16:03

Parking twattery is something that always makes my red mist descend.

Of course you and your visitors should beable to access your drive.

The return of ripped up notices through your letter box says something; your neighbours don't care about your needs.

Unfortunately I don't see what you can do to stop them parking there.

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jammygem · 23/02/2014 16:04

^ Agreed. If one of your visitors scraped their car I'm sure they wouldn't hesitate to complain.

Do your neighbours have anywhere else they can park?

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LizLemonaid · 23/02/2014 16:05

Can u get one of those metal poles that has to be unlocked to lie flat?
Do u know what i mean? I have seen them.

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HunterWellies · 23/02/2014 16:07

Could you enquire at the council about getting a white line painted opposite your driveway? If it genuinely restricts your access you should have a case.

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Clutterbugsmum · 23/02/2014 16:09

You need a friend with a 'rust bucket' and good insurance to 'accidently' hit and damage the car parked in the way (ideally the most expensive car).

The important thing is to dent not scape. Then hopefully the owner will be so offended and make sure everyone knows how their car was damaged. Off corse if anyone mentions it to you, you need to remind them that you had warned them it was tight and your sorry your friend had an accident.

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CSIJanner · 23/02/2014 16:11

The main question is are they legally parking opposite your drive? It might be thoughtless but if they're legally parked, then the only thing you can do is complain to the council and request they place double yellows/restrictive parking opposite your drive.

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Jolleigh · 23/02/2014 16:14

The fact that they rip up and return the notices means they're twats. The only things they're going to understand are either council intervention or you doing something equally twatty back.

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cathpip · 23/02/2014 16:29

We have exactly the same problem, it soon stopped after my dh reversed my discovery out (making optimal use of the parking sensors :)) very close to the couples car who were the persistent offender, they did happen to be sat in it at the time! In fairness they actually had not realised how tricky it was till they saw my dh trying to get out. Could you maybe ask your neighbours to have a go at getting off your drive whilst cars are parked opposite? If that fails I like the idea of accidentally scraping a car...

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LifeIsButtercream · 23/02/2014 16:35

I've spoken to the council and apparently it is perfectly legal for them to park there, I just have to depend on the consideration of my neighbours.......

My visitors either have to squidge into my drive, try and sneak onto it sideways across the edge (which does block the road when another car is parked across the end of my drive so we have to keep an eye out and move if someone comes along) or find somewhere else to park further up the road, which seems nuts when my drive is empty!

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Inertia · 23/02/2014 16:44

Is there any way you can open up your driveway entrance a bit , e.g. taking down part of an adjoining wall ? Unfortunately it doesn't sound as though your neighbours are doing anything wrong legally, they are just inconsiderate ( and probably doing it on purpose given the reaction to notes) .

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PigletJohn · 23/02/2014 17:55

obv, if neighbour parks outside your home, get your visitors to park outside theirs.

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Blamenargles · 23/02/2014 18:43

I'm afraid they are not doing anything wrong. I assume the cars are taxed and tested they are not parking on double yellows and are across the road so not blocking the drive per-say.
You have asked them not too and they still want to park there in their eyes they are not breaking the law and are parking where it's convenient for them.
I know it not convenient for you but you can't really do anything. Also by leaving notes they can actually get you done for harassment.

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CrohnicallyFarting · 23/02/2014 18:45

Does it make it easier to get in if you drive past and turn around? Only we had to do that a few times when our neighbours did the same.

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EduCated · 23/02/2014 18:46

If they're not doing anything wrong, and aren't amenable to being helpful, then you're better off looking at ways of making our drive easier to swing onto. Is it a narrow entrance?

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iamsoannoyed · 23/02/2014 20:19

I don't think YABU- but aside from the posting your notes back (which seems unnecessary), I don't think they are either. I can see both sides.

From their point of view, they are parking legally and not blocking the road. They may genuinely not realise how difficult it is for your visitors and think you are being very demanding. It's possible they are as irritated by the notes you are leaving as you are by their refusal to park elsewhere.

From your point of view, they are making life difficult for you (well, your visitors) and being inconsiderate.

I would stop leaving notes as they clearly aren't working. And judging by the reaction, annoying your neighbours- maybe even causing them to dig their heels in?

Perhaps suggest they try parking in your drive with a car parked opposite for themselves, so they can see for themselves that you are not being overly dramatic?

Could you make the driveway more easily accessible, thus solving the problem?

Is there anywhere else they could park, that would not be inconvenient to them? If so, have you suggested they park there instead?

I wouldn't suggest getting someone to damage their car (however much you'd be amused by it), as it will simply fall on your visitor to meet the cost of the damage and increase the cost of their insurance in the future. I doubt it will make any difference to your problem.

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Boomboomboomboom · 23/02/2014 20:19

If you can afford it, why not buy an extremely cheap second hand moped/scooter. Park it opposite your drive, where the offending vehicles normally park, and never ever move it.

So long as it is taxed, no-one can do anything about it, and it will give your visitors more space to manoeuvre

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