Hello, never posted on mumsnet but am a long time lurker .
basically I am 27 weeks pregnant and split with baby's father when I was 16 weeks pregnant due to the following reasons :
exp has a ds with his ex , she put in a claim for cm through CSA , he then quit his job so he didn't have to pay (did not discuss this with me)
before the above happened we got a new apartment I stayed at my parents whilst he decorated etc , hardly saw him for 2 weeks , popped in to see how he was getting on , NOTHING had been done , exp was sleeping on the floor as he hadn't even bothered to move his belongings in from other property !
since we have split I have found out he is keeping less than desirable company eg. local well known drug dealers and drug takers ( he has began selling and smoking drugs himself ) and is currently residing with someone who from word of mouth has recently had his house raided for fire arms! my exp has been to prison for drugs/firearm and dv offences (he was never violent to myself and had been out of prison and living a 'normal' drug free crime free life when I met him) and I think he has slipped back into his old ways.
I have not allowed him to my scans/midwife appts as since we split I have received numerous abusive/threatening texts saying my son will hate me and he will kidnap my baby from hospital and I just would not be comfortable having him in on what is technically a medical appointment
his ex has also stopped him having contact with their son
wibu of me to deny him contact with my son until he stops dealing and taking drugs , has a suitable residency , a steady income and provides financial support etc ?
I do not want my child to grow up witnessing his new lifestyle and thinking it is ok or normal to lead this kind of life !
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gabcat · 23/02/2014 11:19
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