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To be irritated by hairdresser asking 'how much do you want cut off'?

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wol1968 Fri 21-Feb-14 23:35:17

The hairdressers at the place I take my 10 year old DS always seem to want numbers when they ask this question. My DS has a shaggy mop of wavy hair that sticks out in all sorts of absurd directions when badly cut which is most of the time and it doesn't end up the same length dry as it was when it was sprayed wet. I can't deal with whether it should be two inches or 5 cm or 27.27592 mm or whatever. I just want it (a) long enough to keep the wave and (b) short enough to be tidied up a bit. But when I say this they look at me with a bovine stare that tells me they really don't know what I mean. They're supposed to be the hairdressers. I don't do hair. Ever. I'm hopeless at it.

I suppose I am being unreasonable. This is what you get for keeping the price down to under £10 a cut. But would a slightly better service at a slightly worse price be too much to ask?

Pimpf Fri 21-Feb-14 23:36:53

Of course it's a different length dry/wet. Everyone's is.


MonstersBalls Fri 21-Feb-14 23:37:35


They're scared you'll sue them if it's wrong though.

CoffeeTea103 Fri 21-Feb-14 23:38:11

Yabu, your version of short / long may mean something totally different.

MoonRover Fri 21-Feb-14 23:38:58


They're not mind readers.

Funnyfoot Fri 21-Feb-14 23:39:30


Pay more for the haircut if you think it would be better and you would get a better service.................tbh though I think it's you that's the problem not the hairdresser.

SirChenjin Fri 21-Feb-14 23:39:43


How on earth are they supposed to know how long/short you want it, unless you are both experts in telepathy (which is unlikely)?

Frusso Fri 21-Feb-14 23:40:41

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wowfudge Fri 21-Feb-14 23:40:57

YABU - just tell them what you want and get on with it. In a couple of years your DS will be telling them himself. Oh to have a £10 haircut!

Jolleigh Fri 21-Feb-14 23:41:18

I suppose they could consult their crystal ball rather than asking you hmm

Permanentlyexhausted Fri 21-Feb-14 23:41:28

I'm not surprised they look askance at you! It's quite a normal and simple question.

My 10 year old DS just has a number 7 all over. Nice and simple!

Frusso Fri 21-Feb-14 23:42:00

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wol1968 Fri 21-Feb-14 23:43:32

What's a number 7? Sorry to be so naive.

WorraLiberty Fri 21-Feb-14 23:43:50

They're hairdressers, not clairvoyants.

LittleBearPad Fri 21-Feb-14 23:43:52

It's not an unreasonable thing to ask. YABU.

Go somewhere else if you don't like it.

WorraLiberty Fri 21-Feb-14 23:45:46

My DS Googles a pic of how he'd like his hair and then saves it to his phone.

The barber is always grateful because an image in one person's mind, can be completely different in another person's....even after they've tried to explain it.

Jemma1111 Fri 21-Feb-14 23:46:22

'I don't do hair'

You don't 'do manners' either by the sound of it.

TyneTeas Fri 21-Feb-14 23:46:31

I don't think this is unreasonable, especially when having a trim, I think 'as much as necessary but as little as possible' should cover it for tidying up split ends and making it even.

(however in practice this did once mean that my hair was trimmed from bum-length to bra strap-length as the hairdresser 'thought it was a better length' for me. I was quite shock and am always a bit more precise now...!)

steff13 Fri 21-Feb-14 23:47:37

My 10 year old DS just has a number 7 all over. Nice and simple!

My son has a 2 on the sides and back and 3 on the top. smile

OP, I think when the ask you how much you want off, they mean when the hair is dry. Just show them with your fingers. If his hair is curly or wavy, it might be worth it to find a stylist who specializes in curly hair. You can probably find one at

VonHerrBurton Fri 21-Feb-14 23:47:42

If that's what you say to him/her, ie long enough to keep wave etc - then no, yanbu.

However if you say it more like 'oh, I don't know, just a bit of a tidy up' then yabu. They're not mindreaders and friends of mine with ds' with longer hair are fucking anal quite fussy about how they want it. Too much off and its the end of theworld....iyswim!!

ShatnersBassoon Fri 21-Feb-14 23:48:22

YABU. Vague ideas about the wave and weight are no good.

It's like telling a tree surgeon you want a tree tidying up but that you don't want to lose the nice bend in it when the wind blows. It has to be a bit more precise when you're chopping someone else's stuff.

arfur Fri 21-Feb-14 23:50:37

My ds has really tricky hair, cow lick at front and weird hair line at back so he can't have it short at the front (ie clippers) or it looks wonky unless they cut it unevenly. So he has it longer now, sorts out problem at front but longer doesn't suit his hairline at the back, my hairdresser is currently experimenting with it to try and find a solution! I found when my kids were younger that a lot of salons get junior/trainee stylists to do kids hair and they had a lot of dodgy cuts as a result. So now they have more expensive cuts (25 quid) but they look so much better, it also is sensible to have the same hairdresser each time so they get used to you, your kids and their hair. This would also help your issues with knowing what you want smile

wol1968 Fri 21-Feb-14 23:52:02

Just to clarify that I was never brusque or rude at any stage - I stayed polite, and gave a tip at the end but may have come across a bit vague or waffly. I just would rather have had a picture to point at, you know?

GarlicLeGrenouille Fri 21-Feb-14 23:52:40

A Number 7 is just under an inch long.

YAB a tad U, I'm afraid!

Funnyfoot Fri 21-Feb-14 23:56:26

Search the tinterweb OP and find a picture so that next time you can show them the cut you would like. smile

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