I've posted about her before ( www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a1966323-AIBU-to-just-stop-talking-to-her )
Basically it's only got worse. In the end on the 13th I gave her the ultimatum to either start acting like a mother or I'd walk away with son in toe. She delightful informed me she wasn't my mother now I was an adult, and she knew I couldn't survive without her.
The next day was my sisters wedding which I nearly didn't go to due to her. She was under strict instructions to not let her married toy boy boyfriend anywhere near my son or myself. Then throughout the wedding they're there all over each other he wasn't even invited but she couldn't go without him. He continually told me what to do with my son; how to hold him, how to dress him, to let him run around, not to swing him round like that, what to feed him etc. I was in no mood yet she had the delight of telling all of my sisters wedding guest that I was the bitch and was refusing to talk to her because she had a 'boyfriend who is still married with children People where even asking me what had happened and when I told the truth it was completely different to what she had said. It got to the point that people would take my son over to her and him when they all know I didn't want him over there and she'd return him going "mummy doesn't want you near us baby, sorry."
She told me if I stopped her seeing my son she'd take me to court. Knowing that I'd been hospitalised twice due to the stress of going through the court with my sons dad. I told her she could see him 2:30-3:30 the next day, she read it and at 2 the next day told me she hadn't and wasn't going and wanted to see him the next day. I said fine 11:30-12:30 to which she was nearly 10 minutes late to, arrive on her phone and texting so I left before I exploded.
I invited her round to put my son to bed yesterday for 7 (he normally goes at 6) to which she was once again 10 minutes late to. Her friends are now just being rude and acting like I'm 100% out of order.
I've never felt so alone and today It occurred to me that she will continue tell me that my grandpa was her dad and was nothing to do with me, I never made the effort to go see him like she did. (I learned to drive 2 months after he passed away unexpectedly and he lived 20 miles away from us) Whenever she went I did if I could, he'd phone daily and I'd always speak to him! I've never really got over his death and she blames me for taking her on holiday when he died (Nobody knew he was going to die!)
She fell out with my nan and grandpa when she met my dad. She brags about never accepting anything from them during this time as they didn't speak for about 10 years. The only reason they got to talking again was because my nan was dying. The only memory I really remember off my nan is right before she died about 17 years ago.
I just find myself sitting here asking myself why does she get to enjoy all the good years of my son the smiles and laughter when my nan missed out on so much of us growing up because she didn't let us see her. It's just occurred I resent her for the fact that if she wasn't such a bitch and let us see my grandparents we'd have about 3/4 extra years of them together.
My son loves her I find myself thinking she deserves the same treatment and not to see him to she's on deaths door.
I know I'm must probably being unreasonable. I just feel so alone, I wish I could talk to him.
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RalphLaurenLover · 19/02/2014 22:22
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