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JunoMacGuff · 18/02/2014 19:05

So, this isn't really a big issue, but I fancied a chat about it, to garnish opinion other than mine and DH's Grin

DH got a wedding invitation through the other day. It's from a girl he knows from school, has seen once in the past year (by chance) and hasn't really kept in touch with, other than on facebook.

She's invited him all day to his wedding. No mention of me, at all.

Is this odd? I don't know her, we've never met, but surely you don't invite a married person to a wedding alone? Not all day.

He isn't going, for many reasons (he thinks it is weird he was even invited, thinks it's weird I wasn't, and it's a week before our baby is due) but isn't this odd? Like, they expect a married couple to fork out to attend a wedding and buy a gift (they've included a link to the gift list) but only one of them is actually going?

Or, is this totally fine and we are weird to think it is weird?

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Catsmamma · 18/02/2014 19:07

is the wedding soon ish?? Were you (or dh really) on the runners up list?

So Bridezilla has had a few cancellations and wants to get her present count bums on seats on her side of the church.

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JunoMacGuff · 18/02/2014 19:09

Well, we assume that, because yes it is fairly soon.

Even still, bit odd, no?

Particularly if he was totally non invited (hadn't had an evening invite) and then to become a full day guest.. odd!

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StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 18/02/2014 19:09

perhaps they don't have very many friends and they don't actually realise you are together?

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Supercosy · 18/02/2014 19:10

If she knows you exist then I do think that's a bit unusual. Both because it is common to invite someone with a plus one but also because your DH doesn't seem to know her very well at all. Who knows?!

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JunoMacGuff · 18/02/2014 19:11

Oh, she knows I exist!

She actually congratulated him on facebook when we annoucned my current pregnancy. So, yeah she knows about me Grin

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JunoMacGuff · 18/02/2014 19:12

Glad the consensus is with us, that it is odd.

In addition, none of their other school friends (who DH is still in contact with) have been invited.

He thinks it's even more odd that they are just expecting him to entirely go alone?!

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formerbabe · 18/02/2014 19:13

Very rude then...you should definitely be invited.

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Supercosy · 18/02/2014 19:14

Yes, that is rather strange!

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JunoMacGuff · 18/02/2014 19:17

Good. We thought so too Wink

Wonder what it is about.. well, we he won't be going anyway so it doesn't matter.

People are strange.

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Panzee · 18/02/2014 19:18

Is he being lined up to be the groom? :o

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WooWooOwl · 18/02/2014 19:21

Yeah, it's odd.

I generally think it's rude to invite people to celebrate a marriage without extending that invite to the person they are married to, but this time it does just sound odd.

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sooperdooper · 18/02/2014 19:21

Odd because it sounds like he hardly knows her, and it's last minute but I've been invited to weddings without my DH when it's been old school friends and they've invited the group of friends but not partners, gave us an excuse for a catch up and none of our partners really knew the couple

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Supercosy · 18/02/2014 19:23

Is slightly madly intriguing though isn't it?!

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Hassled · 18/02/2014 19:49

Yup, that's bloody odd.

I think your DH should go though, so he can report back on the oddness.

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Littleen · 18/02/2014 19:50

very strange! could it be they assume when inviting him that you are included? also perhaps they're inviting him just to fill up the seats :P Very odd!

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JunoMacGuff · 18/02/2014 20:06

Yes! It is intriguing... we just can't work out why...

They certainly don't seem to have invited me. Envelope addressed to him only, fine, but invitation only has his name.

He won't go, though I wish he would and report back Grin

Now I am wondering if it was meant to be assumed for both of us? Surely not? He says he won't ask as he barely knows her!

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