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To ask everyone with teenagers to read this

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HavantGuard Wed 12-Feb-14 11:18:33

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/guest_posts/1993685-Id-hear-three-rape-jokes-a-day-one-teenager-on-the-epidemic-of-sexual-harassment-in-schools

And ask you to find out what your DC's school are doing to tackle sexual harassment and intimidation.

chocoluvva Wed 12-Feb-14 11:53:40

NBU - I've already read it and intend to bring this up with a PTA member of my DCs' schools.

HavantGuard Wed 12-Feb-14 12:05:27

Excellent. It's the kind of thing that some schools will already have good policies on and deal with proactively while others will need a kick up the arse to do so etching about. I saw someone on a thread about bullying the other day say that the school had said they didn't have a policy for dealing with bullying 'because they didn't have a bullying problem.' hmm

The kind of environment described is toxic for girls and not one I'd want my sons thinking was in any way normal or acceptable.

AwfulMaureen Wed 12-Feb-14 12:16:37

This has been brought up on MN before with disappointing results...it NOTHING HAPPENED. I want sexual harassment to be treated the same as racism in schools...no matter WHO is on the receiving end. It's time we got a handle on this and when my DDs go to secondary I will be ARMING them TO THE TEETH so that anyone who thinks they can say inappropriate things in their presence will be dealt with.

Mumsnet need to back a campaign.

AwfulMaureen Wed 12-Feb-14 12:20:16

Thank God for articulate, intelligent girls like that blogger. MN has done well in sharing her thoughts but more needs to be done. Sexual harassment is not dealt with in schools...ask your local secondary what their policy regarding it is....they'll lump it in with general bullying when in fact it should be seen as an act of hate...similar to a hate crime,

Racism, thank God is no longer tolerated in schools. It's time sexism was dealt with the same way.

chocoluvva Wed 12-Feb-14 12:26:43

It's so disappointing to think that we seem to have gone backwards. I don't think anyone was viewing porn in my classrooms or joking about raping girls.

HavantGuard Wed 12-Feb-14 12:39:27

I know. The article confirms a general feeling I've had from attitudes surveys of teens that we are going backwards. I totally support MN joining the No More Page 3 campaign but it starts to feel a little ineffectual when girls are sitting in classrooms with boys gathered round their phones watching porn.

AwfulMaureen Wed 12-Feb-14 12:56:40

Choc it was ENDEMIC when I was in High school in the 80s....in a failing comp but that's no excuse.

It has never gone away...it was always there...there's not been any "going back" it was just not dealt with in schools. Say something about rape or tits in an office and you're mincemeat...say it in a school and it's "Oh well..."

muddleup Wed 12-Feb-14 13:22:52

At my daughters High School she was told to go rape someone, that she would be raped, that she was a skank etc.
When I spoke to the school I was told that's how teenagers speak to each other. When I told them that it wasn't acceptable they just shrugged and repeated that's teenagers for you.
I have 3 teenagers and none of mine speak like this and if they did there would be serious consequences because its completely wrong and unacceptable.

AwfulMaureen Wed 12-Feb-14 14:08:39

muddle that's terrible. If that happened to me, I'm afraid I'd be threatening the police. If someone spoke like that to a daughter of mine in the street, they'd be arrested. Why should school be different?

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