A genuinely interested question, and I am not a journalist, I promise! Since my daughter has started primary school at a girls' school, I have become aware of parental ambition in a way I had not been before. There is, inevitably, the focus on academic progress but actually what I have been more aware of (and this has surprised me) is the pressure for daughters to perform at a high level in the extra-curricular sphere. To start an instrument at a very early age, to start club swimming at a very young age. My daughter does three or four after school activities but at the moment I just regard these as fun. When I meet older school age girls I am aware of how many girls seem to be performing to a very high level at a young age in an extra curricular pursuit. Often this is when one parent does not work and has the time to devote to ferrying, supervising extra practices etc. Have not met many school age boys but do you think there is similar competition about their activities? Or is sport more likely to be seen as an opportunity to burn off the excess energy people always claim boys have? In other words are Tiger Mothers (or Fathers!) more likely to put pressure on their daughters to be all rounders (thus perhaps reinforcing that expectation for women to be good at everything) or is the pressure they put on their sons as intense? I am genuinely interested in people's views. This is keeping me awake at unearthly hours.
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messalina · 12/02/2014 01:37
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