Am really not sure if I am or not!
DS is six and obsessed with Pokemon cards. He particularly likes a kind that is a pack in a special tin with a toy. It costs $20.
We're in the process of sorting through a lot of things around our house as we just have SO MUCH STUFF, and trying to get rid of a lot. DS has tons of toys, many he no longer plays with, and is not good about picking up his things. This especially applies to his Pokemon cards as he likes to have them in very specific order, etc, and has had meltdowns in the past when I've made him tidy them up instead of leaving them in piles all over the house.
The other day he was on skype with my mother. Afterward he came to me and said "Mimi said she will send me $20 on the computer to buy a new tin of Pokemon cards!"
I told him no. He was really upset with me, and the next day on the phone I heard him telling my mom that I had said no. She said "well tell her that I offered, you didn't ask, so it's okay." He got really excited about that but I still said no and he was upset all over again. She talked to me later and said "oh seriously, I'll just send $20 to your paypal and you can buy him the cards!" I told her no, I wasn't comfortable with that and she heaved great sighs but said fine. Now, however, she's brought it up a few times "jokingly", like "you're such a meanie", etc.
It isn't that I want to make DS upset, or that I'd have a problem with her bringing him the cards or something like it as a present when she comes to visit, or he visits her. (My parents live a five hour drive away). I know a lot of grandparents like to buy presents and I'm lucky they adore my DC and are involved.
But I don't want DS thinking that you can just ask for a (not exactly cheap) present when it's not your birthday or Christmas, or you haven't earned it, and get it just because. Also he doesn't need any more toys at the moment, especially toys he isn't prepared to keep tidy.
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to not want my mother to send DS money?
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CheerfulYank · 10/02/2014 21:53
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