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...not to apologise for this?

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lonelyredrobin Sun 09-Feb-14 18:38:07

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whomadeyougod Sun 09-Feb-14 18:48:31

can see his point, you are as bad as each other, you started getting stroppy you should apologise .

Hassled Sun 09-Feb-14 18:52:46

I did see this earlier and didn't reply because I didn't want to be rude.

But, as you've asked again - you're ridiculously over-thinking this. You don't know that he didn't go looking for you before he left, you don't know that he didn't assume that you'd approach him (as you had with him). I cannot understand why this is such a big deal unless you have a secret crush and this means way more to you than the "professional acquaintance" thing.

phantomnamechanger Sun 09-Feb-14 18:55:55

why is this such a big deal? have you or he got a crush on the other person? maybe HE was upset, as he was waiting for you to make a move and you apparently ignored him?
if you DO like him, then yes, stop "sulking" and apologise.

CoffeeTea103 Sun 09-Feb-14 18:56:31

You have been very rude!
You put way more into this friendship and expected more, whereas he just thinks of you as an acquaintance and I'll see you if I see you, and if I don't that's fine too.
Why on earth did you send him that rude mail the next day. He's perfectly right in that you could have said hello yourself. You have come across a bit obsessive. I would definitely apologize to him.

phantomnamechanger Sun 09-Feb-14 18:56:59

even if you're just mates, I still think you should apologise for a snooty email

VoyageDeVerity Sun 09-Feb-14 18:58:52

Sorry but this isn't a huge deal darling.

lonelyredrobin Sun 09-Feb-14 19:02:48

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Hassled Sun 09-Feb-14 19:36:38

It's not a rejection. He could well have a crush on you too.

You didn't speak to him; he didn't speak to you. Blame is equally split. As I said, he may well have tried to find you before he left.

Apologise nicely for the snippy email and see what happens.

LEMmingaround Sun 09-Feb-14 19:39:39

do you fancy him?

CoolaSchmoola Sun 09-Feb-14 19:40:58

If a friend had sent me that email in those circumstances they would have got that reply. Male or female.

It sounds like you were both waiting for the other to make the first move, but neither of you did. You can't possibly know if he looked for you before he left, or if he had to leave urgently. Instead of saying 'where did you get to last night, I tried to find you to say hello' casually normally you chucked a strop, for no reason.

He was right to respond in kind. You can either send a chatty sorry reply, or you can risk losing a friend because you overreacted massively.

Your choice.

phantomnamechanger Sun 09-Feb-14 19:46:59

Coola is right

where did you get to last night, I tried to find you to say hello

sounds so much better than Nice of you to say hello last night!

Mia4 Sun 09-Feb-14 19:51:57

Agreeing with those above, you need to clear the air since you were unreasonable to email that. To him it could well have looked like you weren't interested in seeing him or playing hard to get, which is similar to how it probably looked to you.

You don't necessarily have to apologise, you can clear the air though. Email him and perhaps say something like: 'We're a pair aren't we? You looked like you were busy so I thought I'd catch you later, was a bit surprised you'd gone because it would have been nice to catch up.'

It depends how stroppy you were though, you may well owe him an apology.

stardusty5 Sun 09-Feb-14 19:58:12

Agree with others. Personally, if i can see that someone is having a conversation, as you say you were, i wouldn't march up and impose myself. I don't think that its a slight.

Plus, if there are feelings involved, its likely he is overthinking his actions and not wanting to make a prat of himself

OwlCapone Sun 09-Feb-14 19:58:39

So, you didn't say hello to him and then berated him for not saying hello to you...? confused

Coconutty Sun 09-Feb-14 20:02:01

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Coldlightofday Sun 09-Feb-14 20:03:09

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Coldlightofday Sun 09-Feb-14 20:03:18

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Viviennemary Sun 09-Feb-14 20:06:30

As far as he was concerned you didn't speak to him. And he wouldn't know that you intended to come over and speak before he left. Sounds to me like you do have feelings for him or you would just be mildly irritated and said to him well you could have said hi before you left instead of getting furious. He's probably a bit confused now.

ToffeeOwnsTheSausage Sun 09-Feb-14 20:08:27

It seems like you think he is above you with the "appropriate to wait" until he approached you. He is just a person, not a God!

RedPencilPot Sun 09-Feb-14 20:09:50

Sounds like you fancy him!

Coldlightofday Sun 09-Feb-14 20:10:25

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RedPencilPot Sun 09-Feb-14 20:22:02

Sorry didn't see that post!

Doesn't sound like his feelings are reciprocated. If he fancied you back he would definitely have come over and spoke to you.

Just leave it now, move on and realise it's not meant to be. He's given you a very clear hint he's not interested.

puntasticusername Sun 09-Feb-14 20:29:00

Oh, you SO fancy him, you do... wink

Agree, you should probably apologise for the stroppy email. Then take him out for drinks and try and get into his pants.

Helpyourself Sun 09-Feb-14 20:32:58

Apologise and take the chance to move it forward:
"Sorry I was looking forward to catching up with you x"

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