To have a crush?

[GuiltMonster]

So, I am married with DC but I have a crush which seems to come and go over the years.
Sometimes I'm not so bothered about this person and other times I keep thinking about them
I have never and would never act on it but it have to admit to fantasising occasionally.
This person is a close friend of my dh's so I feel incredibly guilty whenever I have these feelings
Is this ok? Is it normal? I'd rather not feel super guilty...
I'm completely happy with my dh btw! Love him to bits!

[EBearhug]

I have had various crushes. I think if they just stay as a fantasy, and they brighten up the day, then there's no harm to it. Most crushes are best not acted on - you don't want to spoil a good fantasy with a dose of reality which just ruins it!

[mrssmith79]

Very normal indeed, don't beat yourself up over it.

[qazxc]

As long as you don't have any intention of acting on it and it doesn't affect your relationship with DH or take over your life, i don't see the harm in it. It's a bit like me fancying Benedict Cumberbatch or DP fancying Kate Hudson, a bit of harmless fancy.

[GuiltMonster]

I suppose, I find myself worry about how nice I look of I know he's gonna pop over to see us
Don't know why when I have no intention of acting on it at all.
I guess it just feels wrong, improbably feel insecure of dh had a crush on a close friend..

[GuiltMonster]

Ha ha Sinister, I can just imagine you eyeing up the young carers

[Innogen]

It's fine. As long as it remains in your head, you're doing nothing wrong.

[GuiltMonster]

Yeah, he remains in my head in that respect. We see him quite often as he's a close friend.. I have had this crush for about 9 years now though

[AngelaDaviesHair]

Well, I suppose he's just someone you find attractive, which is completely normal. One of my best female friends has a crush on a male friend of mine she met at my wedding. She's very amusing about it, but has never given any indication to him that she's interested (she's married). It's just funny sometimes when you get that 'Ooh, I fancy you like a teenager' thing.

[maleview70]

You can bet your money that your hubby will feel the same about one of your friends/a workmate etc....

Doesn't everyone? I fancy loads of people I know. I sit next to one at work!

[QueenofKelsingra]

hope its normal! i still have moments of thinking about my first love. Dh came and whisked me off my feet but i still think about him (we are still friends) and i still wonder sometimes 'what if' we had got together. I'm very happy with DH and love him to bits and would never act on it obvs! a little dreaming never did any harm as long as that is all it is.

[Littleen]

I think it's fine - most people I know have times when they fancy someone other than their OH, because feelings vary from time to time. I don't think it's anything to worry about, as long as you don't let it get too important or act upon it. :) Mind, I would never want to know if my other half had a crush on someone else, so I think it's important not to let it show :P

[squoosh]

It's human to be sexually attracted to people we aren't married to. Perfectly fine. It's only acting on it that's the dodgy part.

[GuiltMonster]

Thanks all I hate to think of dh having a crush but he most likely has!