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AIBU?

AIBU, or is he... over a drunk photo

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bloomingbloom · 08/02/2014 10:39

I have been ' seeing' this man, for about a month, keeping it casual. More of a fling than a long term thing.

We have had sex, and have rough plans to see each other sunday.

I went out last night, came home, and in my drunken state decided to text him a pic of my legs, in bed, crossed, from the thigh down, with the caption ' wish you were here'

i got a reply from him, but it was telling me i needed to stop being rude. Which was a bit odd seeing as he had sent me a rude pic on monday

anwyay, i said sorry, i had just been messing about and didnt mean to offend, and he said he was sober and tired and felt awkward and unsure generally.

I said that its fine and i was going to slink off to recover my rejected ego.

and then he said that he didnt mean it like that, he liked the pic but doesnt like anything.

i dont even know what that means.

i feel awfully embarassed, but then think, well. he sent a pic on monday. it was only legs, you can see more on a night out.

so, am i an awful slut or is he just a dickhead?

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cashewfrenzy · 08/02/2014 10:41

He's being a bit weird. I think, truly, it's not you it's him!

formerbabe · 08/02/2014 10:41

Was he drunk when he sent you a pic?

YouTheCat · 08/02/2014 10:41

He doesn't sound like much fun. You were only reciprocating.

If you are only after a casual fling (and there is nothing wrong with that ) maybe you need to find someone with a sense of humour.

procrastinatingagain · 08/02/2014 10:42

He's just a dickhead!

LuisSuarezTeeth · 08/02/2014 10:42

What pic did he send you?

Bowlersarm · 08/02/2014 10:42

It's always a risk to do something like that. It doesn't sound a terrible thing to have done, but maybe you should have waited until you knew him better.

I'm sure he'll get over it though!

HighBrows · 08/02/2014 10:42

I agree it's not you it's him, he's a dick.

procrastinatingagain · 08/02/2014 10:42

Who for some reason wants to make you feel like a slut

LuisSuarezTeeth · 08/02/2014 10:43

Maybe he was joking about being rude? Hard to tell without seeing the actual wording

MyChildDoesntNeedSleep · 08/02/2014 10:44

What a weirdo (him, not you!)

bloomingbloom · 08/02/2014 10:48

he sent me a cock pic on monday evening. We have had sex a few times, we had had sex that day. he was not drunk when he sent it. We had been laughing about why men do it, and i had said i was pleased that he hadnt. so he did it as a joke and it was funny.because i have a sense of humour.

he wasnt joking about being rude, else he woulnt have followed it up with the rest of what he said.

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YouStayClassySanDiego · 08/02/2014 10:48

He's a tool.

I wouldn't see him again.

MrsBungle · 08/02/2014 10:49

He's a knob. Dump him.

pictish · 08/02/2014 10:50

If he sent you a cock shot, then responded like that your legs, then I think that tells you everything you need to know.
You are there to service him, and nothing more.
Do NOT see him again. What an utter arsehole!!

Caitlin17 · 08/02/2014 10:51

I'd drop him now. Actually I'd have dropped him if he'd sent me a picture of his penis, but that's for you if you're fine with it, but there is a weird double standard going on in his head.

Bowlersarm · 08/02/2014 10:51

Well as his pic was far more explicit than yours, his reaction is strange. Yes he's being a duck in that case.

Bowlersarm · 08/02/2014 10:52

He's being a dick, not a duck

LuisSuarezTeeth · 08/02/2014 10:53

Agree, double standards and odd.

BecauseIsaidS0 · 08/02/2014 10:53

I'd say he is married and was scared his DW would see the pic!

halfwildlingwoman · 08/02/2014 10:53

It's OK for him to send you a cock pic but you can't send a picture of your legs with a flirty message?
Run for the hills. You are not a slut, he has a problem with female sexuality.

halfwildlingwoman · 08/02/2014 10:54

Or, he's married.

harriet247 · 08/02/2014 10:55

I think any form of sexting is just plain old silly, dont send anything you wouldn't mind getting on facebook one day!

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perplexedpirate · 08/02/2014 10:56

He's a cock, move on.

pictish · 08/02/2014 10:57

I agree Harriet.
The cardinal rule is not to send anything you wouldn't want other people to see. Once it's sent, it's out there forever!
Self preservation at all times.

ISeeYouShiverWithAntici · 08/02/2014 10:59

Is he married? Thats the first thought that would have crossed my mind. His wife saw the pic and he had to convince her you were a weirdo and he made a point of texting that in front of her.

how did you meet him? Is there any chance he isnt single?

if that absolutely could not be the case then clearly he is your bog standard tosspot with a madonna whore complex. Shag the 'bad girl' respect the 'good girl'

Probably best for you to not waste any more of your time on him.

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