Bit of background...DH and I are happily married, 7 years, together for 9. We've had and still have some very happy times and love each other but I've always, always felt I wasn't 'enough' for him. I'm pretty sure he finds me boring a lot of the time as I see him glazing over a lot when I chat to him. I'm probably quite boring :(He's not a chatty person with me and no matter what the topic, be it politics, hobbies, TV, it's really hard to get him to engage beyond one word answers at times though he does try, but you can see it's an effort.
On the other hand when he's with his friends or close family he really comes to life. It makes me so sad. He's animated, chatty, and I know deep down that although he loves me he prefers their company to mine. We do have very different interests and sometimes I feel we just don't click. I have friends and family members that I could spend hours and days with and we would never run out of things to talk about - it's just never been that way with him.
Anyway, our wedding day is one he has very happy memories of and often talks about with huge fondness and nostalgia.
I have different memories. Basically from the first opportunity he got ie once we reached the hotel he was off with his friends and family. I spent so much of the day just standing on my own or with other people and a few people made jokes about 'oh dear, lost your new husband already' as he spent the parts of the day he didn't 'have' to be with me either standing outside smoking and getting pissed with his friends/brother or just saying to me 'oh, there's X, just going to go over and chat' (not ever saying, come with me). The parts of the day we were together were lovely and he made a lovely speech but I remember just thinking, god, even on my wedding day he's more interested in other people.
Reading this back I'm aware I'm going to get accused of being needy and clingy and I'm really not, I just wished that on our wedding day we'd be together as a couple more and it makes me sad to remember. God I'm going to get flamed I think but I just needed to get this out and I would never say it to him, actually just writing this down has been quite cathartic!
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darnedwetsinks · 06/02/2014 18:16
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