More of a rant really.
H and I are going through a divorce, we are not on speaking terms and some of you may remember my threads in relationships.
To be brief after over 20 years together he left, claiming it was a temporary split, he loved his family he would carry on exactly as before ie sharing running about for dcs, paying mortgage etc etc.
Reality hit when a good friend confided what she had seen ie him with ow, her on his Facebook page and so on.
After confronting him he immediately stopped seeing dcs paying mortgage and everything else he had promised.
Despite my requests and having a solicitors letter he has refused point blank to arrange any contact details what so ever so I will be the sole custordan.
As the dcs are 17, 15, and 12, I have been advised to let them decide weather to have contact with h.
It has been an absolute nightmare for all of us, resulting in dd1 almost having a breakdown. I too am on medication through it all, not least because of him telling dd1 that he will refuse to meet her/pick her up to punish me!
My dilemma is this:
Ow dd is having a christening and he has contacted dcs to invite them.
He has not given any indication of times or how long. He willbe having them for.
The mention of this has made me feel on edge again.
I am more than happy for dcs to see him and ow and her kids, in fact I wish they spent regular time with him. But something inside my gut tells me something is wrong.
I don't really know what I am asking as I don.'t Want to stop them going but feel as if he somehow has a hidden agenda , like a kind of tick list for the courts. Maybe I am paranoid, he has made me very ill and constantly let the dcs down promising them to take them places and then cancelling at the last minute.
Any advice? Sorry if I sound deranged but he was very controlling during our marriage although I didn't realise it at the time.
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To be pissed off at ex over seeing the dcs,yet again.
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feelingvunerable · 05/02/2014 22:39
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