Hi all
Brief back story
DH with sever short term memory loss, my sister incredibly intrusive ( to say te least) in his medical care. Evil sister Esis
Dh now living away, applied for divorce 10 months ago, nothing happened yet. His sister also controlling / blocking his access to the dc.
My sister closest in age to me has been quite distant through all this does "not want to get involved". But is close to Esis.
After a few attempts to have a meet up. She was generally "too busy" could well be true but given my circumstances I hoped for more support.
Arranged to meet up with sis on Feb 20th for lunch, chat etc.
This last Sat there was a big family get together. Sis was at event from 3pm onwards I arrived at 4:30pm ( as asked, , small house 2 sets of guests as it were)
Sis went out in her car, I casually asked where she had been. She told me that she had visited Esis house but esis was "elsewhere" all very vague / odd. No mention if Esis had been at party.
I wanted to know if Esis had been at the party so texted as follows.
Me :
Hi sis, was esis at the party before I arrived ? Dizzy
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Sis :
Hi dizzy , as I said to you at the party esis did not come at all. Makes me uncomfortable that you ask me again. I will give our meet up a miss. Take care.
Me:
You didn't say she hadn't come to the party just that se wasn't at her house in a very "vague" way.
No one in the family tells me anything.
I feel soooo cut off.
Esis knows more about my dh that I do.
I feel lost, alone, irrelevant.
im in the middle of the main square now typing this in tears.
im just lost.
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I received no reply.
A couple of hours later I sent
Me :
I didn't mean to be rude to you I really didn't.
Id of like to see you but as you have said to me you "don't want to get involved" so I understand why you don't want to meet up.
I feel so,so alone
I will do my best to "take care" but right now I don't even know how.
I wouldn't wish what has happened to me on my worst enemy.
I miss my life.
I have friends I can meet up with but just for a little while I needed, really needed a sister.
I wont trouble you again.
If you do ask me how things are I shall say "fine".
Dizzy#
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I have sobbed all day, I just needed some support.
In all the time my dh has been away ( nearly 2 years) not one member of my family has rung to ask if I am ok, not one :(
I must be as vile as esis and sil tell my dh I am.
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to not get a reply to a trully heartfelt text asking for support :( nc through ineptitude fromerly catfourfeet
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dizzycatdance · 03/02/2014 19:34
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03/02/2014 21:47
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