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AIBU?

to want to book myself into a hotel room on my own for a night?

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wintersdawn · 30/01/2014 10:44

I am exhausted, I haven't slept in I don't know how long, my 3yo dd is at full toddler tantrum plus nightmares stage, my 9 mo ds is teething and has realised mummy can leave the room without him cue screaming all day long, my dog is bored of not having a decent walk because everywhere is flooded and my dh just has to breathe to annoy the hell out of me.
I know I am blowing everything out of proportion but I can't seem to stop myself. I really just need peace.
I'm being selfish aren't ISad

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Whatfun · 30/01/2014 10:46

No you're not being selfish. I did exactly this when I had three children under five. One more night without sleep and I would have killed someone.

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GrumpyInYorkshire · 30/01/2014 10:47

Do it! Do it do it! This is the sort of thing I fantasise about. I'd spend the evening in the gym, then back to my room for a bath and a few glasses of wine, then a blissful uninterrupted night's sleep.
And breakfast, alone, with a paper.
perfect!

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Meerka · 30/01/2014 10:47

nah. It's perfectly normal to want a quiet night with a bit of time for yourself before a night's gloriously uninterrupted sleep!

... no parents who can help for a night?

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CreditCardProblemS · 30/01/2014 10:52

Do it! I would if I could! You are definitely not being selfish.

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Basketofchocolate · 30/01/2014 10:54

I would do this once a month if I could afford it.

I often threaten it, but can't afford it Sad

Do it!

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silverstreak · 30/01/2014 10:56

Omg I read this title and thought "I'm totally doing that as soon as!"!! And this is coming from a (bleeding knackered) mum of Just one 11 month old, let alone your over-loaded situation! Sounds absolutely fab, and more survival instinct that selfishness IMO..... And I Bet your dh would be supportive as well (particular if, like mine, he realises he is in danger of losing body parts any time soon if something doesn't improve....!). Do it!!!! :)

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SecretWitch · 30/01/2014 10:59

I told my husband this when I had a 2yr old and a 3 yr old. He travelled widely for business, giving him plenty of opportunities for uninterrupted sleep. He came home one night to find me in a rather wild eyed state. I looked him in the eye and said " Either a hotel room or jail cell, buddy"
I was dead serious.

I spent two blissful nights at a B&B.

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wintersdawn · 30/01/2014 11:00

I said this morning I was going to do it and dh turned round to say something smart, took one look at my face and said maybe you should think about it.
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who thinks like this.
Unfortunately my parents are 300 miles away and inlaws are useless.

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HarderToKidnap · 30/01/2014 11:01

I was all set to do this when DS was six months, I was literally counting the days down. Then I read a short story by Stephen king called 1401.... And it scared me so much I cancelled!

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endlesstidying · 30/01/2014 11:47

YANBU.

I went through a stage of fantasising about being admitted to hospital (with something not too serious) just so I could get some sleep when DS was about 13 months old.

He's now 18 months and I've still not had a full nights sleep since he was born. A night in a good hotel sounds like bliss. Do it if you possibly can can I come with you?

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Joysmum · 30/01/2014 11:51

Do it, but remember that how you communicate this to your DH can either help you, or make things worse. I'm

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LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance · 30/01/2014 11:52

yanbu
Thanks

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Joysmum · 30/01/2014 11:52

...saying to do it in the right way if you have enough left in you to do so.

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member · 30/01/2014 12:07

My children are now 9 & nearly 13 & I clearly remember fantasising about doing this - especially with dd1 who managed the grand total of two nights sleeping through between birth & three years!

I never did it as it felt self-indulgent/other people cope etc, etc. Like you, my family were hundreds of miles away.

My advice would be to go, there is no medal for martyrdom. It doesn't matter whether or not other people do it or not. It's the old allegory of putting on your own oxygen mask before helping others. Yes you automatically put yourself down the pecking order in favour of children when you have them, but sleep deprivation is a recognised method of torture!

Try & do it!

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Innogen · 30/01/2014 12:13

I've done this and it was glorious!

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littlewhitebag · 30/01/2014 12:15

When mine were small i used to fantasise about a tiny rose covered cottage overlooking the sea with one lovely, cosy bedroom in the attic. I longed to go to this fictional cottage to sleep, read, take long walks alone. I never went to this cottage but i think a night in a hotel sounds like a great plan.

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bigbaddomswife · 30/01/2014 12:15

YANBSelfish!! Do it, you will love it and start saving for the next trip as soon as you get home : )

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projectbabyweight · 30/01/2014 12:15

I did this when dc1 was small and I had post natal anxiety which kept me awake at night listening out for him.

One of the best £40's I've ever spent!

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ajandjjmum · 30/01/2014 12:19

My children are in their 20's, but I remember booking into a spa for a couple of nights when they were under 3, so that I could have a bit of time for me. I developed a dreadful migraine, and spent the night throwing up! Grin

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IndigoTea · 30/01/2014 12:19

Go for it! I am tempted to do it too. Just need to get LO on bottle

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pointythings · 30/01/2014 13:16

Do it. Just do it.

I didn't when mine were little but then I didn't need to - lucky enough to have fab sleepers, and I worked f/t so they were in nursery.

These days my job takes me away overnight a handful of nights a year. I miss DH and my DDs but oh, the bliss of being allowed to take up the middle of the bed, the peace, the lack of domestic chores...

Just do it.

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Pagwatch · 30/01/2014 13:18

I do it once or twice a year.
I don't see why you would question it if you can afford it.
Everyone could do with a break.

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BearsInMotion · 30/01/2014 13:22

I had to go away for two nights on business when DD was 15 months. It was bliss! Am trying to think of another excuse to go away now 2 and still a rubbish sleeper

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strongandlong · 30/01/2014 13:25

I found even going out for a coffee with a book for an hour or two helped take the edge of that murderous rage/misery/exhaustion.

A hotel for a night would be miles better though. If you possibly can, do it!

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