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piklepants Thu 30-Jan-14 04:37:59

School pick up yesterday and one Mum picked her 4 yr old son up and she was wobbly drunk smelling of alcohol. A couple of other mums noticed (She wasn't driving but this is stil not on is it?) she was speaking to a teacher and I'm not sure if the teacher noticed but I saw teacher watch them walk away. Wwyd?

volestair Thu 30-Jan-14 05:17:12

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Fairy1303 Thu 30-Jan-14 05:19:23

Talk to the school. If you noticed, I'm sure the teacher noticed and if she was that drunk her breath would have smelled.

I would let them deal with it tbh, it might have been a one off, been for celebratory lunch or something, and she wasn't driving.

If it was everyday then perhaps think again.

littlewhitebag Thu 30-Jan-14 06:21:04

I think it depends if this is a daily occurence or if it is a one off. She may have been out for a celebratory lunch or perhaps she had bad news that day. If the mum was talking to a teacher then I am sure she would have noticed. If I was you I would do nothing but maybe be alert to that mum and see if it happens again. If it does then speak to the school about your concerns and they can pass them in to the appropriate agency if need be.

redshifter Thu 30-Jan-14 06:37:04

I wouldn't report unless it was a regular thing.

DrNick Thu 30-Jan-14 06:37:59

Teacher would have noticed. Or mums been out infor a boozy lunch with her mates

Gileswithachainsaw Thu 30-Jan-14 06:39:49

I would only report if it happened regularly. It's possible she's had some bad news and got a bit drunk.

Once, I'd give benefit of the doubt.

Crowler Thu 30-Jan-14 06:40:20

Similar thing happened to me a few months back. The step-mother of one of my friend's son's smelled strongly of alcohol at the school gates (but didn't seem drunk). It was a bit awkward.

DrNick Thu 30-Jan-14 06:42:09

Was she incapable? If not butt out

Thumbwitch Thu 30-Jan-14 06:51:27

If she wasn't driving then you should not report her yourself; but if you felt the need, you could talk to the teacher and ask if the mum was all right because she looked very wobbly.

If it's a one-off then reporting her would be very OTT; but if it happens more than once you would be best off mentioning it to the school so that they can follow whatever protocol they have in place.

ITCouldBeWorse Thu 30-Jan-14 06:53:15

Ifyouhave a concern see the cpo at school. Just because you noticed today, it does not mean it does not happen twice a week. They need to collate a portfolio of info. You would corroborate the teachers observation, which might relate to something last week.

If she was straight from a a wake, then that would be seen in context.

TheXxed Thu 30-Jan-14 06:54:58

Picking up a child from school drunk is NOT NORMAL, report her. FFS

happystory Thu 30-Jan-14 06:58:46

All I know is that at nursery level a child will not be released to an adult under the influence......

Doingakatereddy Thu 30-Jan-14 07:00:52

I'm with thexxd, it is not normal to be drunk at 4pm when picking kids up

SolomanDaisy Thu 30-Jan-14 07:04:16

Of course it's not normal to be drunk at 4 o'clock, but lots of perfectly responsible adults have a drink at lunchtime for a special occasion. Reporting for a one off daytime drinking incident is ridiculous and a waste of social services time.

TheDoctorsNewKidneys Thu 30-Jan-14 07:04:52

I'm really surprised so many have said not to report it. It is not normal or acceptable to be drunk and wobbly when you pick a four year old up from school. Or any kid, for that matter. How can you look after a four year old when you can't walk straight?

WitchWay Thu 30-Jan-14 07:06:44

It's not good to be wobbling drunk at 4pm but as mentioned above she could just have had a boozy lunch - alcohol tends to make people drunker at lunchtime. Have you seen her like this before? If not I'd leave it for now - as you said, she wasn't driving.

ll31 Thu 30-Jan-14 07:06:58

Ott to rpt unless it's not one off.

DrNick Thu 30-Jan-14 07:07:36

This isn't America. ;)

We can drink and look after kids.

NCISaddict Thu 30-Jan-14 07:10:22

It could have been her birthday/wedding anniversary or a more sad anniversary about which you know nothing and she's been out for a good lunch.
If she's not used to alcohol then it would have more of a visible effect, leave the poor woman alone unless it is obvious it's a regular occurrence.

TheDoctorsNewKidneys Thu 30-Jan-14 07:11:50

OP, I would report it to the the school, not SS. Like others have said, it could just be a one-off, but equally, it could be a regular pattern of behaviour and if it is, then the school will need as much evidence as possible before they report it to SS.

Gileswithachainsaw Thu 30-Jan-14 07:11:54

No ones said it's normal or even an acceptable thing to do. However it's more than possible the woman's been to a funeral and a wake and understandably having a bad day.

If she turns up drunk again I'd happily report but as a one off i wouldn't.

SolomanDaisy Thu 30-Jan-14 07:14:27

The gaggle of gossiping mums sound like they'd have noticed if it was more than a one off.

HappyMummyOfOne Thu 30-Jan-14 07:14:36

I'd would have gone in and seen the head, its not normal to be wobbly drunk in the day picking children up from school regardless of the circumstances. Surprised so many think its fine.

FourArms Thu 30-Jan-14 07:15:28

I sent DH to pick up the DSs after our Christmas end of term drink in the pub because I was worried they wouldn't let me have them - I'd had one G&T but I'm a lightweight with alcohol. Actually we stand so far away from the door of the classroom that no-one would ever know.

I'd say report to school - they might then watch for a trend.

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