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to not want to be told how tired I look?

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Wuxiapian Wed 29-Jan-14 23:15:50

I'm 35 weeks pregnant.

I actually felt good this morning (for a change), made it out of the house with 12 month old for playgroup.

I walk in and the first words to greet me are "God, you look really tired".

Gee, thanks. That made me feel so much better.

RaptorInaPorkPieHat Thu 30-Jan-14 09:12:26

YANBU............ I got at 8 months (when I nipped into work whilst on mat leave) " OH MY GOD! YOU'RE HUGE" grin

and the best one........ (in woolworths, with month old baby in pram) "Not long now!"

Wuxiapian Thu 30-Jan-14 09:50:55

People just don't think, do they?!

I would never negatively comment on someone's appearance - I know how cutting it can be.

It's like pointing out to someone they've gained a few lbs - like they don't know already know!

horsetowater Thu 30-Jan-14 10:55:15

I think it's far more helpful to tell someone their label's sticking out or they've got spinach on their teeth or sellotape stuck to their bum.

Telling people they look tired is almost a dig. Next time I'm going to say the same thing to them, "thanks, so do you".

I'm sorry you experienced that as your first greeting Wuxia - people are a bit dim sometimes aren't they ? And yes, I think it's rude, if it makes you feel upset rather than welcomed it wasn't a good greeting was it ?

Hope you have a better day today. Well done for getting out yesterday - I hope things improved after that rubbish start?

CaptainTripps Thu 30-Jan-14 11:57:26

People are so thick. Who wants to hear that? Thing is - I always look tired. So fuck off with your well-meaning but dim comment.

MummyPig24 Thu 30-Jan-14 13:07:39

Yanbu! Why do people say that?! I'm 34 weeks and have had the tired comment and comments about the size of my bump. I don't want to hear it.

sebsmummy1 Thu 30-Jan-14 13:09:36

My nasty and spiteful ex boss used to say this to me and I totally despised her was really not grateful for her fake concern at all. If you have nothing nice to say .....

mindthegap01 Thu 30-Jan-14 13:09:53

YADNBU! I'm 37 weeks and feel like an exhausted whale. Until 36 weeks I was working full time and a colleague of mine who is notorious for calling in sick kept doing the head on one side, 'are you OK? Should you be here? Hmmm?' I thought I looked alright, leave me the F alone!

sykadelic15 Fri 31-Jan-14 02:24:27

I'm not pregnant but I got told that once when I came to work wearing makeup :S

My sister once had someone say to her "OMG, what happened to your face?!" when she arrived at work sans makeup (she was going to put it on in her office).

Some people have no clue!

Blueberrymuffint0p Fri 31-Jan-14 08:05:16

My mil does this and I think it's really rude. Makes me feel like crap and tbh, she looks knackered most of the time but I'd never dream of pointing it out to her!

wonkylegs Fri 31-Jan-14 08:23:54

I went to my hospital appointment yesterday with my Specialist nurse - I was asked 'how are you today Wonky?' I replied -' I'm knackered and feel rubbish'
He replied
'I thought you looked absolutely crap but didn't think that would be a good opener but as you brought it up....' grin
He always manages to make me laugh, I think that's why it's one of my few regular hospital appointments I don't mind going to.

ipswichwitch Fri 31-Jan-14 09:39:31

On the other hand, I've got a 6 week old baby and loads of people have said "you look really well!" In a kind of surprised disbelief tone of voice. I can't win - I either look like I've been punched in the face or look well when clearly I shouldn't!
The only thing people should say about your appearance when you're pregnant is about how marvellous you look and that you're positively blooming.

MatryoshkaDoll Fri 31-Jan-14 10:12:19

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