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To be slightly miffed at this mum

(33 Posts)
Ghanagirl Wed 29-Jan-14 16:58:54

Feel slightly p,d off at one of the mums at school.
She often asks me to bring her daughter out to her car along with my two year 2 children. she has two younger kids one aged 3 the other 9 months, plus DD in my DD's class, happy to do as no extra hassle, but last 3 times she's complained that me, my twins plus her DD are so slow to come out ( whilst she's sitting in car with her two youngest) it was pouring with rain today and the three of them were slow coming out, but I'm doing her a favour am I over sensitive?

BumPotato Wed 29-Jan-14 17:01:24

You'd think she'd ask someone with only on hand to hold. If she complains again tell her to get her DD her-fecking-self.

BlackeyedSusan Wed 29-Jan-14 17:01:35


next time remind her that she can do it herself if she thinks it is any quicker. grrr.

BumPotato Wed 29-Jan-14 17:01:41

One hand to hold

Innogen Wed 29-Jan-14 17:02:52

Yeah she's being a knob.

Point it out to her? 'I'm not in a rush. If you are, you should go and get your DD yourself'.

whiteblossom Wed 29-Jan-14 17:04:04

no, you should have said "well you could always do it yourself" cheeky cow. You could add "starting from tomorrow [smle] "

I wouldn't bother from now on let her struggle getting the kids out and back in her car.

ChameleonCircuit Wed 29-Jan-14 17:04:35

Crikey, when DS was tiny I used to ask friends to walk DD back to us in the rain or if he was asleep, but only if it was on the way back to their car and I'd return the favour at other times. And I would never dream of complaining about it. Stroppy cow!

Only1scoop Wed 29-Jan-14 17:04:37

Yanbu....you are doing her a bloody favour.

IAmNotAPrincessIAmAKahleesi Wed 29-Jan-14 17:05:18


If she's not happy with the 'service' she is recieving from you then perhaps you'd be kinder to stop doing it. After all you wouldn't want to inconvienience her would you? wink

SavoyCabbage Wed 29-Jan-14 17:05:27

What! I would be gobsmacked. How entitled. I would say "I'm not doing it again as you've complained when I, doing you a favour!" But maybe next time say "no, I'm hanging round for a chat".

whiteblossom Wed 29-Jan-14 17:05:51

just re read op, 3x she has complained! tell her to get of her lazy arse and pick up her own kid...I'd be fuming.

MarianneBrandon Wed 29-Jan-14 17:06:39

Next time she complains tell her to get them herself. She sounds very ungrateful considering that you are helping her out. YANBU

craftynclothy Wed 29-Jan-14 17:08:14

God no. Tell her to do it herself.

lookingfoxy Wed 29-Jan-14 17:08:24

I wish someone would escort my ds to my warm car whilst I sat inside it instead of me havingto lug a heavy 7 mnth old around. YANBU.

Witchofthenorth Wed 29-Jan-14 17:08:41

Good God...how rude shock YANBU...tell her to get her own kids in future!

invicta Wed 29-Jan-14 17:08:43

She is being unreasonable. Children can take ages to come out and some classes are notorious for always being last out. Don't make excuses for yourself - you are doing her a favour, and as someone else said, if she is in a hurry, then she can always collect her daughter.

loveandsmiles Wed 29-Jan-14 17:08:53


I have little ones of similar ages and never ask another mum to get my DC out of school. I got them out of car today in gale force wind and pouring rain and off we went ~ wish there were mums like you at our school ~ I would be eternally grateful, not moaning.

If she wants her DC out quicker, tell her to do pick up herself. You are way too nicesmile

MarianneBrandon Wed 29-Jan-14 17:09:22

Next time she complains tell her to get them herself. She sounds very ungrateful considering that you are helping her out. YANBU

craftynclothy Wed 29-Jan-14 17:09:33

Oh and just realised she's complained 3x. I can understand maybe once saying "Oh they were quite slow coming out today" in a general chit chat sort of way rather than complaining but FFS, you're doing her a favour.

Let her bloody struggle getting her other kids out of the car and let her see how quick that is.

Only1scoop Wed 29-Jan-14 17:11:18

Didn't realise last 3 times....misread that.
Time to say no more

AwfulMaureen Wed 29-Jan-14 17:13:03

Oh what a cheeky mare she is! I am regularly given a lift home from another school mum and she loves a chat...she is one of those chatty types and I would never dream of moaning that I'm waiting for ages...if I don't like it I can always walk!

Scholes34 Wed 29-Jan-14 17:14:55

I'd be sure to find someone to chat to once the DC have come out of class tomorrow and be even slower.

expatinscotland Wed 29-Jan-14 17:18:06

Don't do this anymore. Next time she asks, you say, 'No. All you do is complain that I'm too slow, so you go and get your own child.'

End of. You owe this woman nothing.

Ghanagirl Wed 29-Jan-14 17:55:02

Thanks mumsnetters, I'm usually quite assertive, but work in a child friendly setting 2 days a week so felt should help fellow mums but felt she was bit rude today, will "man up" and tell her that she's tad ungrateful!

frugalfuzzpig Wed 29-Jan-14 17:58:54

Ungrateful indeed shock

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