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AIBU?

to be really, really annoyed with me friend?

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Stinklebell · 14/01/2014 23:44

Just before Christmas some friends of ours mentioned they were thinking of taking their kids to Disneyland Paris this year and asked if we'd like to go with them.

DH and I said thanks, but no for various reasons, mainly that we've already booked a holiday for this year and can't afford another one. Explained that to them

We both have 2 girls, who are roughly the same age and are in the same schools and years and today we ended up in a bit of a play date swap, her eldest came to our house with my eldest, my youngest went to their's to play with their youngest

Swapped the kids back earlier and my find DD is absolutely bouncing off the walls with excitement as she thinks she's going to DLP in the summer. My friend has spent the time she was there winding her up about it and saying stuff like "guess what, mummy and daddy might be taking you to Disney this summer"

DD is gutted and I'm really cross

We said no, we meant no, it's not fair to blackmail us into something by using my 8 year old

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IneedAwittierNickname · 14/01/2014 23:46

Yanbu!

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hoppinghare · 14/01/2014 23:48

I'd be really cross too. Your poor DD must have been really excited. I'd big up the other holiday a lot so she doesn't feel disappointed. Probably best not to make a big issue out of it with your friend though.

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hoppinghare · 14/01/2014 23:48

I'd be really cross too. Your poor DD must have been really excited. I'd big up the other holiday a lot so she doesn't feel disappointed. Probably best not to make a big issue out of it with your friend though.

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hoppinghare · 14/01/2014 23:48

I'd be really cross too. Your poor DD must have been really excited. I'd big up the other holiday a lot so she doesn't feel disappointed. Probably best not to make a big issue out of it with your friend though.

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Mrswellyboot · 14/01/2014 23:48

er, this your 'friend'. Hmm

Very sneaky

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Stinklebell · 14/01/2014 23:49

Sorry, got a bit trigger happy with the post button.

Called her when I got home to find out what had been said and friend just replied that she thought DD would enjoy Disney more than what we'd already booked and she didn't mean any harm.

I mean, really? How can you not think that winding up an 8 year old is not going to cause any harm?

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justmuddlingalong · 14/01/2014 23:52

She sounds like a twisted bitch.

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Caitlin17 · 14/01/2014 23:52

I'd have "misinterpreted" it and phoned her and said how nice of you to offer to take my daughter (assuming the dates aren't the same)

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Songbird · 14/01/2014 23:52

Wow she really wants you to go doesn't she? Why? So your kids will keep hers amused? Because she hates her husband and wants you there so she doesn't have to be alone with him when the kids are in bed? Bizarre. Tell her you'll go if she pays Grin

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Stinklebell · 14/01/2014 23:55

I think she wants us to go so we can share costs

It's a horrible thing to do.

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Adeleh · 15/01/2014 00:15

Brilliant suggestion by Caitlin - that's what you should do.

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Stinklebell · 15/01/2014 00:18

I really, really wish I'd thought of that.

I think it's a bit late now though, I've already told her that we'd already said no and I didn't appreciate what she'd said to DD and didn't want to hear anymore about it.

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Adeleh · 15/01/2014 00:25

Well I hope she realises how rotten she was. She was completely out of line.

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pluCaChange · 15/01/2014 00:29

How unkind, and, actually downright rude!

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Caitlin17 · 15/01/2014 00:30

It really is a rotten thing to do.

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WhoGivesAMonkey · 15/01/2014 00:53

What a cow! - Unbelievable - how dare she!

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msvenus · 15/01/2014 01:22

Do you think she wants to share accommodation costs with you to make the trip more affordable for her family. This may be the reason why she is running a sneaky pr campaign with your daughter.

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Stinklebell · 15/01/2014 01:47

msvenus. Yes, I think so. She was talking about apartments outside DLP that we can share and split costs.

We are going away with SiL and her husband and their 2 girls (who are also roughly similar ages as my 2) - we're sharing a villa in Ibiza so we're having a really good holiday as it is, all the girls are really excited about it.

We have already been to DLP, did the whole surprise thing, had a fantastic time, but if I was going to subject myself to Disney and It's a fucking Small World again, I'd take them to the states in few years when they're both old enough to go on everything and we've got several years to save for it

And I wouldn't ever go on holiday with them anyway, been there, learnt the hard way

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Gatogris · 15/01/2014 01:51

Do what Caitling suggested.

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ZillionChocolate · 15/01/2014 07:04

Definitely don't ever go on holiday with this family, the woman has no respect for your decisions.

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Charley50 · 15/01/2014 07:10

That's outrageous! Weird and quite stupid. YANBU. Not worth losing your kids friendship over it though so o would probably just ignore it.

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Charley50 · 15/01/2014 07:10

I.

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 15/01/2014 07:12

What a shitty thing to do :(

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Groovee · 15/01/2014 07:28

Wow, she really is quite rude expecting you to go and trying to get you to go by winding your daughter up.

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Topaz25 · 15/01/2014 08:31

YANBU! I was hoping it was a misunderstanding till I saw you'd spoken to her. "Didn't mean any harm?!" She cynically manipulated your DD in an attempt to save money! I would be civil for the sake of your DD's friendship but I wouldn't trust your friend. YY to talking up the Ibiza holiday, it sounds great!

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