To get pissed off some days with living with a fussy eater.(137 Posts)
He is perfectly capable of making his own meals but it's nice for us all to sit down and eat the same meal of an evening.
He is rubbing off on ds which pisses me off the most.
He has annoyed me tonight with his fussiness, I could happily tip tomorrow's tea over his head right now.
Frustrating is an understatement.
Sound like you made a good swap between ex and dp enormouse!
Anyone giving a person with life threatening allergies grief over their menu choices is a grade A *****.
Fussy eaters piss me right off, so YANBU! Especially adults.
The things he eats are limited and, while not the work of the devil, NOT varied or good enough for him, or more importantly your household, to be eating. Chicken nuggets, spam and chips are not a balanced diet.
And it's downright irresponsible for him to leave fruit and veg out of what he cooks for your DS just because he doesn't eat them. Does he not care about DS's health?
You need a sit-down and a proper talk, OP. He needs to let or make DS have fruit, veg or salad when he's feeding him. If he cooks for the family he needs to cook you balanced meals with veg. If you are cooking and he says he won't eat what you're making, your response is 'Fine, make your own or go hungry but DS and I are having this and we're eating at x o'clock.'
IMO, it's completely reasonable not to like some things, e.g. I dislike avocados. To cut out an entire food group with the blanket statement of "not liking vegetables", for example, is childish. It's also an unhealthy attitude to food and I would not be happy with that being passed down to the children.
YANBU Op. I live with my Son (10 months) Husband and Dad atm. It's chaos. My dad won't eat any carbohydrates, only meat/fish. My husband won't eat any kind of fish, only carbohydrates. Husband also not fussed on fruit or veg but I am slowly turning that around. Bloody nightmare.
Very rude too! To turn his nose up at your cooking I mean :/ its just horrendous manners more than anything and a terrible example to your ds
How rude of him.
Of course it's reasonable to have a few foods you don't like and therefore never eat. But as others have said the whole "ALL fruit and veg are evil" thing is just silly, and when you have children, irresponsible.
I also don't get the idea that people with Aspergers, supertasters etc don't exist in developing countries. Of course they do! Being a supertaster is down to how taste buds develop, it's not fussiness but a medical issue.
I am not fussy at all and like strong flavours but have IBS which means that there are some foods that I love but can't eat, and others I can only have a little of. I also have a few textural issues - beans are out, as are anything wet and crunchy like cucumber or raw onion. But that's really not much and as an adult I have every right to decide what I do or don't want to eat. What I DON'T have the right to do is be rude to people because of what they've served me, or to refuse all foods in xyz category, or only eat chicken nuggets ffs.
kind of want chicken nuggets for dinner now though oops
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I'm a fairly fussy eater (mostly regarding fish) and my DP has complained about it.
However, I do most of the cooking in our house and pay for the groceries, so I don't think I should have to eat stuff I don't like.
I was a fussy eater as a child, as was my younger brother, but it was mostly down to my mother being a terrible cook. I survived on cheese sandwiches and tea and tinned spaghetti. Once I was old enough to cook for myself and turned vegetarian, I had to develop a taste for vegetables I would normally have refused to eat and these days I'm an adventurous eater.
I am phobic of bananas though, have never been able to get past it. My mother once fed me banana bread, telling me it was nut bread and 'surprising' me afterwards and I still haven't forgiven her. It's not even the taste of it, I hate how it looks, how it smells, those little bastard flies that live in it if it's been out for any length of time, it's the colour of piss and I even hate the name. Spent a large part of the Minions movies shuddering and not because those movies were shite.
My friend has a similar reaction to fish. She's fine with tropical fish, live and swimming around in the ocean, but any kind of river fish sends her screaming for the door. Apparently when she was very small she was flicking through the channels and came across a documentary about river fish breeding and then dying, and the camera captured a full-on view of dead fish clogging up the water. It was so traumatic to her as a child she can't even walk past the fish section of the supermarket.
I don't know if YABU in your particular situation but a lot of the comments on this thread are unreasonable and hurtful. Things like this:
Fussy eaters are a right royal PITA
It is a 'right royal PITA' to be a fussy eater. It's not done for amusement or benefit, it's a nightmare.
Because I'm such a 'fussy' eater, I can't go to dinner at people's houses, can't go out for dinner unless I know people really well and/or have looked at the menu online and checked if I can cope with it and struggle at almost every social occasion because they always involve food. There are many reasons why I've never been able to hold down a relationship but food is certainly one of them. I'm just too difficult to be around and I know that but it's not a choice.
Then, even when it is family or close friends and you think they know and 'get' you and they say they just want you to be comfortable and not to worry etc - you still find out they say things like the above about you behind your back.
I just don't get how you can dislike all fruits or all vegs. I mean a banana is so different texture-wise and taste-wise from say a grape, or an apple.
I understand disliking certain things, I understand disliking a texture (ie all types of fish) but all fruits or vegs?
An the fact that PPs are saying that when the vegs are well hidden then the fussy eater will eat just seem to prove the point that they are not disliking the taste of the food, they are disliking the idea to eat this food. No?
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