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To think hair length does not have anything to do with age?

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Looby12 Tue 14-Jan-14 13:04:17

Two colleagues at work were just talking about hair, colleague 1 (mid 20's with shoulder length hair) said she had a trim before xmas and will be keeping an eye on the length as she wouldn't want to get to "that point", colleague 2 looked confused, colleague 1 said "you know when its that length when you are too old for it and look nice from behind but turn round looking all haggard". Cue embarrassed looks as they both realised I could over hear and I have much longer hair (i'm only aged 35 by the way)

The cheeky bugger, since when can older people not have longer hair???

Would I be unreasonable to say to her its not her hair that is the problem its her face!

Quoteunquote Tue 14-Jan-14 13:08:08

She is bonkers, she has some imaginary rules on appearance, she must find it so frustrating that people don't follow the imaginary rules, just tell her she is bonkers and ask where can a rule book be found, it bound to be funny.

SaucyJack Tue 14-Jan-14 13:08:20

I believe that's what's known as being a "back beauty".

35 isn't too old, but if you care about these thing there does come a point where the casual onlooker can get quite a shock when you turn round.

mrsjay Tue 14-Jan-14 13:09:01

the first woman has obviously been reading some magazine or other I had long hair at 35 it is a bit shorter atm because the woman who does my hair is on maternity leave and i wanted to wait as long as possible to find another hairdresser,

PumpkinPie2013 Tue 14-Jan-14 13:12:46

She's barmy! Of course older people can have long hair!

Hair length/style is down to what suits the individual (and what their preferences are).

I'm in my 20s but have short hair (concave at back and bob shape at front) because it suits me and I'm hopeless with long hair!

MidniteScribbler Tue 14-Jan-14 13:12:49

I am 36 and I have long hair. If my hair is shorter then I look like Shirley Temple. The shorter my hair is, the frizzier it is. I need the length to give me the weight to stop it getting frizzy. I don't really care what anyone thinks about the length either. It's my hair, and as long as it's neat and clean then no one has cause to complain about it.

MaidOfStars Tue 14-Jan-14 13:13:17

I don't like long grey hair (on any age of person), but that's just my personal preference. As for long hair on older women in general, I wouldn't like to say that Michelle Pfeiffer (for example) had got to "that point".

Famzilla Tue 14-Jan-14 13:15:17

To be fair, there are a lot more young girls with long hair than there are women over 30. In my area anyways.

It's not a "thing" as such, just an observation.

A lot of older women at my gym have long hair, perma tans and pert boobs. I'll admit I was a bit surprised when I saw their faces. From a distance they look about 30 years younger than they are!

mrsjay Tue 14-Jan-14 13:16:14

looby dont worry about it you are far off the shampoo and set wink

munkysea Tue 14-Jan-14 13:17:06

Ah, the lack of self-awareness that the certain mid-twenties individuals can show, sometimes. Bless. She's been reading too much Cosmo or the Daily Mail and internalized all the hatred of women, because there are obviously 'rules' about what women can and can't do with their bodies!!! Everyone knows that you should signal to all and sundry at all times how old you are, so they can tell whether they would find you attract or its false advertising or something.

LurcioLovesFrankie Tue 14-Jan-14 13:20:22

I'm 48 and I have waist length hair. I stopped caring about what other people think a long time back! Very liberating.

dozeydoris Tue 14-Jan-14 13:20:31

Well, your hair can look gorgeous, long, short, spiky or whatever and you turn round only to reveal a wrinkly face - perhaps everyone over 32 should dye their hair gray and have it cropped.

Everyone says daft things like that when they are young and don't imagine that they will ever be old, or perhaps, old and still wanting to look your best!

mrsjay Tue 14-Jan-14 13:21:42

tbh i dont think i will ever have short hair I had it once in my late teens and so not a good look

persimmon Tue 14-Jan-14 13:22:20

I love to see long hair up in a chignon or similar on an older woman, tres chic! The problem with long hair around 'old' faces is that when it's worn loose, it emphasises the general downward vertical trend of the whole area, and can look a bit 'witchy'.
Disclaimer: 35 is positively radiant with youth! I'm 43 and would have long hair if my hair wasn't so fine and rubbish

specialsubject Tue 14-Jan-14 13:22:38

nearly 50 and growing mine, which BTW has only slight greying coming through in streaks which I love.

in mid 20s they will think 40 is near death. I remember that stage. This is why young people are best not put in charge. :-)

'body from Baywatch, face from Crimewatch' is not age-related!

Thetallesttower Tue 14-Jan-14 13:23:51

I used to think like this and had shorter hair in my thirties, then I got to forty and realised that I liked long hair. Your friend thinks she has to look a certain way to attract me, she doesn't realise that come over-forty, she may not care if a random in a white van is 'tricked' by her long hair anyway.

Whiskwarrior Tue 14-Jan-14 13:24:17

I'm 40 and growing my hair out! At the moment it's just above shoulder length.

I've heard this thing about older women having longer hair - what a load of cobblers, honestly.

A 'friend' of mine was remarking once that women over forty should all have short hair - as a mutual friend (mid-40s) was standing with us. Me and mutual friend just gave other woman this face:


CMOTDibbler Tue 14-Jan-14 13:24:24

I'm 41 and have long, grey hair and I love it. By her calculation, no one should dye their hair either

Stinklebell Tue 14-Jan-14 13:25:19

I was told once "now you're nearly 40 you should think about cutting your hair off"

Yeah, don't think so.

Yes, as you get older your hair can thin and look ratty, and if that happens I will get it cut, but right now, my hair swishy and shiny and is in the best condition it's ever been so it's not going anywhere

bluebell8782 Tue 14-Jan-14 13:25:27

My colleague at work calls it a '1664' - 16 from behind, 64 at the front...

I think anyone should be able to wear their hair how they like. When I'm old I'd like to have long grey hair wrapped in a bun - I think that's a lovely 'granny' look.

To change your appearance for a made-up rule is crazy.

FanFuckingTastic Tue 14-Jan-14 13:27:22

My mum doesn't have a choice when it comes to hair colour, it's basically silver grey and she prefers it long enough to tie back in a pony tail. She's 50.

I shaved my head entirely when I was 30. I love having short hair.

I am surprised age has anything to do with hair style, but I am pretty unconventional.

Starballbunny Tue 14-Jan-14 13:28:19

I wish mine would grow longer than my shoulders, witchy sounds just right.

Scribblegirl Tue 14-Jan-14 13:28:40

Ooh this winds me up. I remember my mum commenting on one of the mums at my school who had just hit 40 and wondering aloud when she was going to get her hair cut as it was 'innappropriate' to have it long after 40. My mum's had a pixie cut since before I was born - she's got the features for it, lucky woman :s

I, on the other hand, do not, and will be keeping my hair past my shoulders for as long as I have hair.

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Pigsmummy Tue 14-Jan-14 13:29:07

I have a friend who is always on about me my getting my hair cut shorter due to my age (38) and recently that I should have it cut just like Jenifer Aniston. I told her that having had 3 inches off a couple of weeks ago was fine and that not everyone would suit a bob. I certainly don't! My hair is the easiest to maintain when long and having a baby means that I can tie it back. I am considering low lights rather than a block colour though as a my hair is very dark and am getting a bit of grey.

There is an element of hair thinning that happens during menopause, maybe that's where the age thing comes from? Boots are charging £7.99 (?!) for a new shampoo that claims to fix that so maybe we will see more long haired older ladies very soon?

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