To be angry over this???

[LadyofDunedin]

My cousin was over for the weekend and we had a great time... But...

1. Her bank card is missing so she only had limited cash - I paid a lot, cooked dinner, drunk my wine (she came empty handed)
   
   
2. After she left I went to put a load of washing on and her towel is missing. She's not the tidiest, so I text to ask where is was hiding. She responds that she's taken it
   
   There was no apology! It would appear it was not in error, and it is a massive bath sheet- can't miss it at all!!! Also heavy, and cost £££
   
   So AIBU to be really angry that she's taken advantage of me, stolen this from me??
   
   I texted back saying I want it back although am sure she will 'forget' it. She should really offer to post tomorrow.
   
   I can't believe am so angry . My own cousin , and I know it's a towel, but it's ruined such a great weekend, and now am worried what else is 'hiding'

[littlewhitebag]

She is certainly a bit cheeky! How old is she? She sounds like a thoughtless teen to me.

[PumpkinPositive]

Did she offer a explanation as to why she'd pilfered taken it?

[Ifancyashandy]

She's your cousin. One presumes you'll see her again? Maybe she took it to wash it? You've asked for it back. She'll probably return it. It's a towel, not the Crown Jewels.

Here is a grip . You might want to take it.

[LadyofDunedin]

She's 30

Thanks for that, shandy. But unnecessary.

I was staying that am annoyed she's purposely taken it - she doesn't wash things! And it wasn't just that, was the cash flow etc etc

[RandomMess]

Blimey how weird and odd. Why would you think it was ok to take someone elses bath sheet????

[LadyofDunedin]

She lives 200 miles away, will be a long time till I next see her, and like I say, it will go missing etc etc

You're right, she is my cousin. That's why am pretty pissed she stole from me blatently

[LaurieFairyCake]

Did she really say she took it deliberately???

Fuck, she's a cheeky mare. Sounds like you were taken advantage a bit with food and drink too. There's no reason is there?

[LadyofDunedin]

Thanks, random exactly how am feeling
Told DM who shared my furious anger on it! A towel!!!!bloody nice towel too, part of a set ...

[Birdsgottafly]

Has she always been like this, or do you think she could be covering up being skint?

If the former, then tell her straight before she comes next time.

[kukeslala]

She may have had some sort of accident with it so took it to wash herself?

[Famzilla]

Maybe she got something on it and was too embarrassed to leave it for you to wash?

[BarbarianMum]

A grip? Really?

I must need one too then, cause I'd be furious if someone I'd invited to stay stole one of my bath towels. If she'd taken £25 from the OP's purse would you be offering a grip then too?

[MuttonCadet]

You don't take peoples towels - she's horrific.

[Timeandagain]

What do you mean 'her bank card was missing' as in I just didn't bring it?

It's rude to stay with someone and come empty handed but leave with more than you arrived with.

Maybe only a towel but why take it, massive cheek all round.

[Chottie]

I would have been annoyed too. Bath sheets are not cheap, I think she is taking the p*ss big time. Take comfort in the fact that there are 200 miles between you.

[LadyofDunedin]

laurie I texted to ask where it was to take it, she said 'I don't know', maybe I've taken it, oh yes, I have, my bad, you huffing?

And like I say, this thing is huge, heavy and colourful. She had one bag, you don't accidentally take that

[mousmous]

yanbu
I woud be angry, too.
hopefully you get it (or something similar) back soon.
text messages are weird for such communications, it's easy to leave out the niceties as typing is often such a hassle.
call her, talk to her. tell her that you are dissapointed.

[BarbarianMum]

If she'd took it to wash I think she'd have told the OP that - if not at the time, then when she rang to ask. And apologised.

[MelanieCheeks]

If she was a guest, then it's fair enough that you showed hospitality. She's admitted that she took the towel- give her the benefit of the doubt that it was accidental. Unless she has previous form for this. It's annoying sure, but why are you angry?

[LaurieFairyCake]

If text back and say 'it's part of a set so I will need it back, please post it asap'

[LadyofDunedin]

Thanks all

I know she's not skint. Bought a brand new a
Car yesterday, shiny German one!!!

The bank card 'went missing so ordered a new one that hasn't arrived'

I am glad others are supporting and sharing my anger here.

She has a bomb site flat and no pride in it. She come yes a lot on my nice things. I just prioritise my home over gadgets , unlike her. Different people. I reckon she just saw this nice thing I left out for her usage - then took the towel!!!!

[LadyofDunedin]

Like I said, house a bomb site, probably puts washing on once a year. Wouldn't occur to her to post it - would only get 'lost ' in the post. Similarly , defo not accidental - it's a big sheet

I am so angry OP as she's taken the piss and blatantly stole

[DawnOfTheDee]

You need to text her back asap saying "thanks please can you stick in the post for me tomorrow". Cheeky mare!

[Ifancyashandy]

Meh. I just think 'stolen' is a bit much when you know you can see her again and get it back.

She's bad mannered and rude but 'so angry'? Nah. Not my style. I'd just shame her.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

How do you 'accidentally' pack a huge, heavy, colourful bath towel that isn't yours?