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To have unprotected sex even though we don't want to conceive.

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Seekingsense Sun 12-Jan-14 19:42:34

Planning to ttc in the near future so had Mirena coil removed in November so I could give my cycles chance to regulate prior to ttc.

Definitely do not want to conceive until at least March (various reasons).

LMP was 1st January and previous cycle was 38 days long. Been monitoring LH levels and no LH surge today.

Had a 'special' evening planned for DH and found out an hour ago that we've run out of condoms shock Local shop does not sell them and nearest supermarket is 30 minute drive away!

WIBU to go for it anyway? Realistically, I'm unlikely to conceive at this point in my cycle, am I?

Ahhhhh. Frustrated.

trashcanjunkie Sun 12-Jan-14 20:05:03

You could do 99% ie everything but the deed. Lots of fun grin

ToffeeOwnsTheSausage Sun 12-Jan-14 20:06:56

As that is your reason it would be crazy to risk it. One 5 minute fumble worth losing ££££?

MammaTJ Sun 12-Jan-14 20:08:12

I fell pregnant with DD1 the day my period ended. The doctor said I couldn't possibly but I know I did.

I told her I hoped she was never going to be responsible for giving contraceptive advice to teens.

ShadowFall Sun 12-Jan-14 20:08:54

Only go for it if you're happy to get pregnant now.

If you really strongly feel that you don't want to conceive before March, then don't risk it.

Our local petrol station sells condoms BTW, so if you've a nearby petrol stations that's worth a try. Most supermarkets will be closed by this time on a Sunday anyway.

Sparklingbrook Sun 12-Jan-14 20:11:53

I got pregnant with DS2 2 weeks before we started TTC according to the NHS.
There is some evidence that some people may ovulate more than once a cycle too.

Dahlen Sun 12-Jan-14 20:13:35

Would two months really make all that much difference?

Although it's controversial, for women lucky enough to have a clockwork-regular cycle, who are very aware of their body and where they are in their cycle, natural family planning is very effective. The trouble is that many, many women don't fall into that category and your 38-day cycle doesn't make you sound particularly regular. Furthermore, the most variable part of the cycle tends to be the pre-ovulation bit that you're in now. It would be a risky move.

I second the nearest pub option. Are you sure you don't have any condoms lurking in an overnight bag somewhere?

But you don't have to have penetrative sex you know. wink

ComposHat Sun 12-Jan-14 20:24:03

I don't know what the op wants anyone to say.

If you have unprotected sex you run the eidk of getting pregnant.

We know that, she knows that.

What elde is there to add?

LouSend Sun 12-Jan-14 20:24:58

I had a very regular cycle, usually felt ovulation and used the rhythm method. Got pregnant.

Dd2 was a long time ttc. The month we had people staying and were sharing a room with DD was the one month we knew we would have no hope of conceiving. That was the month I got pregnant.

If you don't want a baby don't have unprotected sex.

WaitMonkey Sun 12-Jan-14 20:25:17

Never have unprotected sex unless you are willing to be pregnant. If you don't want to conceive before March don't do it. Plenty of other stuff you could do.

wobblyweebles Sun 12-Jan-14 21:10:32

Well I've got pregnant every month in which I've had unprotected sex so I'd say no.

LadyMaryofDownton Sun 12-Jan-14 21:13:54

Goodness just do it, & this is very crude but can't he just, you know..... Pull out?!

Mabelandrose Sun 12-Jan-14 21:14:17

I had unprotected sex ONCE (thinking I was very safe and not ovulating). Yep, I'm pregnant! It only takes one time.

Tulip26 Sun 12-Jan-14 21:25:37

I've been told it might take a year after coming off depo for my periods to return. I was meant to have my injection on 8th Jan. Got my period today. Sometimes the human body does strange, unpredictable things.

Don't take the risk, do a 69 wink

Coldlightofday Sun 12-Jan-14 21:27:10

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Nojustalurker Sun 12-Jan-14 21:29:28

Yes you are bu to have unprotected sex if you don't want to get pregnant but are you sure ou don't want to get pregnant?

AnnieOnAMapleLeaf Sun 12-Jan-14 21:32:59

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SparkleToffee Sun 12-Jan-14 21:35:48

It took me 2 years to get pregnant with DS..... So when we had one "accident" when he was 6 months old, I really didn't stress about it.... And that's how I got pregnant with DD. if it makes s massive difference to mat pay then don't do it.

ComposHat Sun 12-Jan-14 21:35:48

Ladymary you get an often undetected release of sperm before the main ejaculation.

Hence the old line about 'what do you call people who use the withdrawal method of contraception?'


StupidMistakes Sun 12-Jan-14 21:38:50

withdrawal method although we all know that don't work Or if you live close to me I have plenty, feel free to come have some of mine <I have more than enough believe me, I wouldn't miss 5 or 6>

StupidMistakes Sun 12-Jan-14 21:41:19

OP have you got anyone you could message and ask if they have that live walking distance from you? My best friend and me would both feel comfortable asking, and actually will get them and swap flavours etc to our liking. WE HAVE NO SHAME

LadyMaryofDownton Sun 12-Jan-14 21:44:07

Really, guess we have just been lucky then, two years and counting!! takes a few steps away from DH

Ok don't do that, it's very silly.

AngelsInWinter Sun 12-Jan-14 21:45:22

Get him to pull out?

summertimeandthelivingiseasy Sun 12-Jan-14 21:46:02


Chunderella Sun 12-Jan-14 21:47:41

One up the bum, no harm done. Alternatively, go and have a cold shower!

Grumpasaurus Sun 12-Jan-14 21:59:47

have sex and then go to your pharmacy tomorrow to get the morning after pill. And while you are there, by some condoms.

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