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To ask why your/my/our/the baby is usually referred to as just ‘baby’?

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DitaVonCreamTeas Sun 12-Jan-14 18:31:59

‘You will feel baby’s first kicks...’
‘Make sure baby’s head is supported...’
‘Don’t wean baby until...’

I don’t know why this gets on my tits as much as it does (apart from the distinct whiff of twee), but oh, it gets on my tits. ‘Your’ or ‘the’ would be fine, surely?

Does it make anyone else gag or is it just me?

Amandine29 Sun 12-Jan-14 18:32:58

It's not just you.

Berryglitter Sun 12-Jan-14 18:35:23

You're not alone.

needaholidaynow Sun 12-Jan-14 18:36:27

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Bigfingers Sun 12-Jan-14 18:37:26

it's weird and annoying, totally agree.

Wheels79 Sun 12-Jan-14 18:37:58

It annoys me but it annoys me even even more when women are referred to as "mum" as in "and how is mum feeling?" Instead of "how are you feeling?"

CustardOmlet Sun 12-Jan-14 18:38:03

Makes me feel violent when they're referred to as baby. I can hear Miranda Hart from Call the Midwife saying baby and that's the worse!

LaundryLegoLunch Sun 12-Jan-14 18:38:28

I hate hate this. I'm glad I've finished having babies so I'm never subjected to this again grin

DameFanny Sun 12-Jan-14 18:40:18

But what's the alternative? "It"?

needaholidaynow Sun 12-Jan-14 18:43:42

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Birdsgottafly Sun 12-Jan-14 18:46:35

I haven't heard it after birth, only during pregnancy.

But then my role has been in CP and the mother isn't always going to retain residency or PR.

Even just in general health care, it's a minefield, sometimes.

I think Mum, sounds less formal then "the Mum", you see so many different people/personalities/situations, it's difficult not to upset someone by a careless use of a word, or sentence.

FortyDoorsToNowhere Sun 12-Jan-14 18:49:32

Many of my friends have had babies and I loose track of the names.

So I ask how's the baby as I don't want to get the name wrong.

IneedAwittierNickname Sun 12-Jan-14 18:50:25

I don't know.

In some ways 'the baby' makes it sound like an object, rather than a person, at least it does to me.
Whereas just 'baby' is a replacement for the name.
Does that even make sense?

On a similar note, my ex always refers to his new DS as 'the baby' when talking to me, which is silly as I'm well aware what the baby's name is. grin

specialsubject Sun 12-Jan-14 18:52:00

also can't quite identify why it is so nauseating and patronising, but it is

'the baby' or 'baby fred', or just 'fred'!!

fluffyraggies Sun 12-Jan-14 19:02:46

Doesn't bother me personally. In books, on TV, by MW ect.

However - my MIL still calling her first GC Baby, when he is now nearly 7 and she has 3 other grand kids who are actually babies, makes my teeth itch ...

''Baby is coming round later'', ''Baby rode his bike up the street today'', ''Baby loves his onesie'' etc. Ugh.

Ifancyashandy Sun 12-Jan-14 19:06:54

I am unlikely to ever be a birth mother and yet this grips my piss. 'The baby' or ' Your baby' are fine. 'Baby' makes the woman (IMO) sound like an incubator, maybe because it totally removes the mother from the equation.

Tulip26 Sun 12-Jan-14 19:15:25

Annoys me too. I'm a grammar nazi though.

Fairylea Sun 12-Jan-14 19:19:10

I hate it too.

BabyDubsEverywhere Sun 12-Jan-14 19:21:18

Drives me bonkers too.. slightly irrational I fear but it still makes me get all stabby.

FirstStopCafe Sun 12-Jan-14 19:21:40

Doesn't bother me at all

raffle Sun 12-Jan-14 19:24:59

The midwife we had on the ward referred to our DS as "Bub".

She was saved only by the fact that I had a c-section and couldn't physically get out of bed and punch her grin

JedwardScissorhands Sun 12-Jan-14 19:25:22

Hate this. My MIL kept using this with my eldest. Like it had a fucking capital B.

ImperialBlether Sun 12-Jan-14 19:40:21

I hate this, too. Mind you, I also hate it if people are talking about their family in the same way, eg, "Dad says..." Surely that implies he's my dad, too? Why can't they just say, "My dad says..."?

Mind you, I've found that sort of person is self-centred too.

honestpointofview Sun 12-Jan-14 19:43:11

I am the same as Fourtydoors. So many people at work have children I forget all the names. i try to say how is your little one or something similar.

poocatcherchampion Sun 12-Jan-14 20:09:53

I hate it too. and the whole "mum" thing. "how's mum today?" arg!!

and my last midwife was particularly annoying: "so, we had a c-section last time didn't we?" I'm thinking, oh you too? oh no, you just seem to have a grammar problem. shut up shut up shut up!

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