Right, sorry for the misplaced thread but blatantly posting for traffic. Hope that's ok.
My lovely DM decided to move her own DM in around 8 years ago and has been her sole carer for all that time.
My grandma was already 90 when she came to live with my DM and DF and has been deteriorating since June, has been and out of hospital, caught pneumonia, cleared the infection surprising all the doctors and finally died at Christmas aged 98. She was an amazing person. Her funeral was yesterday and bam, my DM is now totally floored. She is completely mentally and physically exhausted. As I would expect she had been hanging on for months now keeping it together until the funeral but has now just taken to her bed, no energy, exhausted etc
I knew it would happen but I just wondered if anyone else out there has been through something similar and could suggest how I help my DM as she currently feels like she has no purpose, no commitments etc- her life for the last 8 years has been about my grandma and because grandma was at a stage in her life where she required 24 hour care DM hasn't been away in years, has never put herself first or done what she wants to do.
I don't want to rush my mum into anything so wondered if someone has been in DMs position and could offer advice of what to do and what not to do. I think if I offer holiday brochures and talk about freedom she would be upset so am trying to be a bit sensitive.
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Impatientwino · 11/01/2014 22:30
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