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to have told the new guy to please leave me alone as I'm on lunch?

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musicboxwoundbyakey Sat 04-Jan-14 00:00:22

So because the weather was so shitty today and most people are still off work (so had no-one to go out with at lunch) I decided to stay in and eat lunch at my desk and read my trashy magazine.

The new guy (who has been here 2 months now so not too new) came up to me and asked me a question about work, I helped him out and then went carried on eating my lunch. 5 minutes later he came back and asked me another question.

Irritated by that point, I did help him but also said look I'm on my lunch break and don't want to deal with work related stuff right now. (It was obvious I was on my lunch, I was eating and reading)

I feel bad but I wasn't the only colleague around and the job I do is customer facing so can have people ranting at you all day so you need a break just to de-stress.


LadyKooKoo Sat 04-Jan-14 00:01:24

Yes. Rude too.

dancingwithmyselfandthecat Sat 04-Jan-14 00:02:58

No, but in my experience you are on a hiding to nothing if you stay at your desk. Is there a common area you could go to?

Financeprincess Sat 04-Jan-14 00:03:18

Oh dear, the poor new bloke!

Be extra nice to him next week.

VoyageDeVerity Sat 04-Jan-14 00:04:25

A bit

musicboxwoundbyakey Sat 04-Jan-14 00:06:37

Be extra nice to him next week.

I did help him with both his questions first.

letsplaynice Sat 04-Jan-14 00:07:49

Yabu because you stayed at your desk and expecting peace it never happens hmm

MrsWolowitzYouAMerryChristmas Sat 04-Jan-14 00:08:02

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cees Sat 04-Jan-14 00:08:55


RestingActress Sat 04-Jan-14 00:09:31

Lunch at desk = asking to be disturbed unfortunately

JumpingJackSprat Sat 04-Jan-14 00:10:10

You should have said the first time sorry I'm on lunch please could you ask someone else. I've been there and now that's what I do with any questions.

musicboxwoundbyakey Sat 04-Jan-14 00:10:35

Yabu because you stayed at your desk and expecting peace it never happens

I suppose, its been a long time since I've done it. Other colleagues have lunch at their desk and I wouldn't ask for their help as lunch break is your own time.

Crikeyblimey Sat 04-Jan-14 00:11:29

I often eat at my desk and either read the paper or the news online.

I will answer questions sometimes but usually tell people I'm on lunch.

What gets me is when people see me eating and reading and ask "oh, are you in lunch?" I want to reply "what have it away"?

You weren't rude - he'll have got over it by now.

MuttonCadet Sat 04-Jan-14 00:11:55

Yes, and very rude, poor bloke.

Crikeyblimey Sat 04-Jan-14 00:12:40

Gave it away - NOT have it away! That's another thread altogether!

ProphetOfDoom Sat 04-Jan-14 00:12:47

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TheArticFunky Sat 04-Jan-14 00:13:38

If you said it very politely you wouldn't be dwelling on it and starting a thread so I would imagine that you were rude and that you are aware that your tone was rude.

musicboxwoundbyakey Sat 04-Jan-14 00:15:11

and very rude

How so?

Genuinely interested.

I helped him out both times he asked and I politely in a friendly tone said that I am on lunch so don't want to deal with work at the moment.

I didn't refuse to help him and then told him to fuck off.

Salmotrutta Sat 04-Jan-14 00:15:37

and I wouldn't ask for their help as lunch break is your own time

But you aren't new are you?

I have started new jobs (in the same career) several times - and every place is different so it's taken more than 2 months to encounter every policy and system.


Mikkii Sat 04-Jan-14 00:17:06

I sit in an office so we (2 of us) shut the door when we eat. Having said that, people still knock and come in!

It depends what it is about, I probably mind less than my colleague.

sparklysilversequins Sat 04-Jan-14 00:17:15

I don't think you were rude at all! He was especially after the first time when it was obvious you were having lunch.

stayanotherday Sat 04-Jan-14 00:19:53

Yadnbu. I hate this. You did help him but he shouldn't have asked you. You're entitled to breaks. I had colleagues following me into the staff kitchen and standing over me nagging me about work including the manager. In the end I said no more and went to another part of the building for lunch until they got the message.

BillyBanter Sat 04-Jan-14 00:20:33

He wasn't rude to ask and you weren't rude to ask not to be disturbed.

MuttonCadet Sat 04-Jan-14 00:20:54

Well someone was asking for your help, and you refused look I'm on my lunch break and don't want to deal with work related stuff right now
You said you feel bad, which makes me think that you really feel like you should have been kinder - I agree.
Would have killed you to just help him out because he needed advice, without giving any snidey comments and then eaten your lunch?

MadAsFish Sat 04-Jan-14 00:23:17

I don't see how you were rude at all.

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