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To exchange dh's Xmas present to me without telling him?

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chaosisawayoflife Fri 03-Jan-14 21:58:43

Dh bought me several lovely presents (most of which were from a list he asked me to write for him) which I am very grateful for and know I'm very lucky. However, he also got me some 'surprises'. One was a top from monsoon. When I opened it I made the right noises and thought it might be ok but I've since tried it on and it looks hideous on me, it makes me look both pregnant and frumpy (I'm definitely not the former and hope I'm not the latter!). He would be quite dejected and hurt if I told him I don't like it and want to return it (especially since I have to return the underwear he bought me in 34c when I'm 30dd!).
I've found the receipt, wibu to go and exchange it for something I will wear? He probably won't notice. Alternatives are tell him and hurt his feelings or keep it in the back of the cupboard and never wear it.

DrNick Fri 03-Jan-14 21:59:13


FetchezLaVache Fri 03-Jan-14 22:02:14

exchange it! If he notices, just say it was a bit too big for you but they didn't have it in a smaller size, so you got something else instead.

ImperialBlether Fri 03-Jan-14 22:08:04

Say you swapped it for one that emphasised your DD breasts - then flash him and take his mind off his problems. grin

chaosisawayoflife Fri 03-Jan-14 22:10:25

Ha imperialblether but my dds aren't particularly impressive and were clad in a 34a until recent bra intervention threads!

Justforlaughs Fri 03-Jan-14 22:12:42

I'd try it on in front of him and then ask if he will go with you to choose something that suits you better.

Purplefrogshoe Fri 03-Jan-14 23:28:29

I would just exchange without telling him, he probably won't notice and that way you won't hurt his feelings. I exchanged underwear DH got me, it was the right size but far too scratchy, he hasn't noticed

Trills Fri 03-Jan-14 23:34:54

Exchange it but DO tell him.

Or take him with you, take a few top sin to the changing rooms and ask his opinion in choosing so he can feel like he's involved in his present to you.

If his feelings would be hurt by you saying "I'm not keen on this top" then either you've said it badly or he's overly sensitive and needs to learn to be sensible about this sort of thing.

morethanpotatoprints Fri 03-Jan-14 23:38:30

Exchange it but tell him, otherwise you will be in the same position next year. Why would he be so hurt?

Dh the top you bought me really doesn't suit me and I'm not comfortable wearing it. In fact you have shit taste. End of conversation.

cees Sat 04-Jan-14 00:03:46

I can't see how he could be hurt, it's a top that doesn't suit so the only logical thing to do is exchange for something that does suit and I wouldn't bring him with you to choose it unless you both like shopping together.

Personally I hate shopping with dh, he doesn't mind going round with me but I just prefer to go alone.


Topaz25 Sat 04-Jan-14 00:56:22

I'd exchange it but tell him otherwise he will probably expect to see you wearing it at some point, just tell him it doesn't fit.

AgentZigzag Sat 04-Jan-14 01:22:08

He's got the hit from when you opened it and thinking he's got you something you love, and you're all warm and fuzzy in the knowledge you're with someone who puts effort and thought into buying you surprise presents on top of what you'd asked for.

Why smash that bit of loveliness into a thousand billion pieces, and ruin the whole of his Christmas 2013 memory, by telling him that actually you hate the way it makes you look/feel and he got it/you completely wrong?*

Much kinder to change it and not let on.

*Over egging for AIBU purposes only.

LyndaCartersBigPants Sat 04-Jan-14 01:29:28

I like the idea of saying you went to change it for a different size but they didn't have it, so you got something else. Little white lie won't hurt anyone.

MummytoMog Sat 04-Jan-14 01:35:40

I'm doing exactly that with the rank Xmas present my DH got me. Luckily, he bought it in a large and it's ginormous.

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