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GlitzAndGiggles Fri 03-Jan-14 19:23:20

I was sat at a bus stop when a lady came with 2 young children. The one in the pushchair was screaming for about 15 mins and she was in a thin coat with no hat, scarf or gloves. Whenever she told her mum she was cold she was told to shut up. The older girl - probably around 7 or 8 was shivering away too also in a summery type coat. Anyway after 15 mins of the crying it clicked in my head to give the one in the pushchair my scarf so I took it off and asked the mum if she wanted it for her daughter and she kissed her teeth and took it then walked off confused. I wasn't trying to make her feel bad but it was horrible seeing these girls like that. Should I have just stayed out of it?

GlitzAndGiggles Fri 03-Jan-14 22:47:37

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LondonNinja Fri 03-Jan-14 22:48:07

Blimey, I do hope not, mrs Why do you say that? What does it matter?

RandyRudolf Fri 03-Jan-14 22:48:15

i think the teeth-kissing reference was a way of implying the mother was black without actually saying the mother was black


merryxmasyafilthyanimal Fri 03-Jan-14 22:48:35

Is the teeth kissing thing exclusive to black people? Weird because I've seen white people do it too.

Salmotrutta Fri 03-Jan-14 22:49:09

I have no idea what teeth kissing is.

Is it the same as tutting?

steff13 Fri 03-Jan-14 22:49:41

^i think the teeth-kissing reference was a way of implying the mother was black without actually saying the mother was black.

I thought it mean she sucked her teeth, as a previous poster said. Why would this imply she was black (I'm not being facetious, I truly don't know).

merryxmasyafilthyanimal Fri 03-Jan-14 22:50:29

You might have to Google it salmo - can't really describe it!

RandyRudolf Fri 03-Jan-14 22:50:59

Great, so first the OP is accused of seeking validation and now she's racist. Only on mumsnet hmm

GlitzAndGiggles Fri 03-Jan-14 22:51:17

Teeth sucking/kissing same thing. Its just plain rude and the mum was in a knitted cardigan

ArtexTheHallWithBoughsOfMonkey Fri 03-Jan-14 22:51:59

I agree with worra today actually although I did call her a serial chip pisser the other week.

But today she is right.

Aibu to donate a kidney to an orphan?

GlitzAndGiggles Fri 03-Jan-14 22:52:16

If I had written "she kissed her teeth because she's black" I'd get slaughtered. But no she wasn't black she was olive toned

BrianTheMole Fri 03-Jan-14 22:52:23

i think the teeth-kissing reference was a way of implying the mother was black without actually saying the mother was black.

Huh? Why?

FrankAndFurt Fri 03-Jan-14 22:53:37

Worra says it perfectly.

GlitzAndGiggles Fri 03-Jan-14 22:53:38

Salmo it's like a lengthened tut kind of thing. Just youtube it I'm sure some sad acts done a demo lol

edamsavestheday Fri 03-Jan-14 22:54:06

Nice thing to do.

Cheesyslice Fri 03-Jan-14 22:54:09

FFS. What rudolph said.

OP, you did a nice thing. Well done.

Had I done the same and received the same reaction form the mother (regardless of race hmm ) I would have wondered if I was BU to have done what I did.

So...YWNBU. And YANBU to post an AIBU. grin

GlitzAndGiggles Fri 03-Jan-14 22:55:34

Thankyou Cheesy. I thought she might have took offence but I'm confused why she walked off

hmc Fri 03-Jan-14 22:57:48

LedareAnsley Fri 03-Jan-14 23:00:00

This afternoon I was parked up with DS waiting for DH to do boring things at an electrical parts place and there was a bus stop opposite.

The smartly-dressed woman waiting there was shouting out loud and making gestures. She danced behind every pedestrian who passed her. I locked the care doors and reported a vulnerable person. I do this at least five times a year where I live.

Salmotrutta Fri 03-Jan-14 23:01:06


I googled.

It is indeed like an elongated "tut" with almost a "chirrup" in there too?

LedareAnsley Fri 03-Jan-14 23:01:09


The last memorable person was out in the snow from morning until night creeping around in a t-shirt and shorts.

RandyRudolf Fri 03-Jan-14 23:02:16

Ok, officially declaring this a freaky thread hmm

hmc Fri 03-Jan-14 23:02:46

I don't think the OP was looking for validation and approval (why judge people by your own failings) - clearly OP was bemused by reaction of the mother and canvassing views

LedareAnsley Fri 03-Jan-14 23:03:34

yy hmc.

cerealqueen Fri 03-Jan-14 23:04:15

Was it a long woolly type or the mumsnet scarf?

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