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Desperateretrainedmumof3 Fri 03-Jan-14 17:34:01

I retrained nearly 2 years ago but haven't got a job. We're really struggling with money, we could even lose the house.

Anyway there's a course which teaches you how to get interviews for the field I retrained in, it costs £50 and is based in London (we don't live in London so travel costs but a return train is £20 then tube costs so maybe £80 total?

DP says its snake oil, taking advantage of people's misery, but it's totally legitimate. I feel so unsupported by DP. AIBU?

littlewhitechristmasbag Fri 03-Jan-14 17:36:25

Wouldn't you be able to get the same information free on-line? What is the field of work involved?

Chottie Fri 03-Jan-14 17:37:29

Desperate after reading that you are struggling with money and may even lose your house, I think I would be looking for any sort of job and not just concentrating on finding a job in own field.

I don't think your OH is being unreasonable. Do you have a job interview lined up? GBP 80 is a lot of money when you are in danger of losing your home.

Desperateretrainedmumof3 Fri 03-Jan-14 17:38:33

No, some information is free but the course is said to be really good especially good value for money. I just think it could mean I could get a job, and then our money troubles would solve themselves! I'm desperate for work sad

littlewhitechristmasbag Fri 03-Jan-14 17:38:36

MN is a fantastic place to get help. Maybe we can collectively help you for nothing?

Desperateretrainedmumof3 Fri 03-Jan-14 17:39:19

Chottie I have tried to find work but its just proved so hard and I am not trained for anything except my field, I was a SAHM for years.

CocktailQueen Fri 03-Jan-14 17:39:52

The course does sound a little suspect tbh. What field do you want to get into?

HermioneWeasley Fri 03-Jan-14 17:40:02

Who says it's really good?

I am sure you could get the same advice for free from others in your industry and headhunters.

And probably a lot of good advice on MN

TheArticFunky Fri 03-Jan-14 17:40:07

If the course increases your chances of success it is a good thing but it sounds a bit odd to be honest . What field of work are you in in? Maybe we can help.

notapizzaeater Fri 03-Jan-14 17:40:16

If you're close to loosing the house I'd try for any job and do the course when you are more of an even keel.

Madambossyboots Fri 03-Jan-14 17:41:24

Littlewhite, how lovely to suggest that.

birdybear Fri 03-Jan-14 17:41:34

You can get a job you are not trained in. Try for any job if you are that desperate. Don't be so choosey!

Desperateretrainedmumof3 Fri 03-Jan-14 17:41:34

I have tried for any job, I really have, honestly. I have heard the course is excellent and very good value for what it is, it definitely isn't suspect in any way.

FetchezLaVache Fri 03-Jan-14 17:42:23

Who told you the course is really good? Friends who work in that field? Perhaps you could do a bit of networking, get them to tell you of any openings.

Can you tell us what your field is? I agree with LWCB, I bet we could help.

Desperateretrainedmumof3 Fri 03-Jan-14 17:44:50

It's teaching, I'm worried about being identified though. The feedback on another teaching based website is excellent.

TheProsAndConsOfHitchhiking Fri 03-Jan-14 17:44:50

I think yabu. I understand what you are saying but this course shouts con to me. I am sure there is a load of info on the net for you to get stuck into without paying. your dh sounds quite sensible.

TequilaMockinBird Fri 03-Jan-14 17:45:38

If you're close to losing your house, you can find better ways to spend £80 I think.

You don't need to be trained for all jobs, have you looked for jobs doing cleaning/bar work/shop work for eg? You can still look for a job in your field but at least you'll have money to pay bills in the meantime. It's easier to get a job when you already have one wink

CharlesRyder Fri 03-Jan-14 17:46:11

Is it teaching?

ADishBestEatenCold Fri 03-Jan-14 17:46:47

You possibly are (BU), Desperateretrainedmumof3. You possibly are.

Can you tell us what you retrained to do? And what you did before retraining?

Also have you had no job at all in the 2 years since you retrained or have you been working doing a different sort of job (or even what you did before retraining) in that intervening period, while looking for a post in the job you retrained to do?

Is the job you retrained to do so specialist, so rarefied, that you would need special skills in order even to get interviews in the field and, if so, why weren't these special 'interview-accessing' skills taught as part of the retraining course?

Can you give us (a lot) more information? I think it is impossible to tell whether you are or are not BU, from your post.

Littlefish Fri 03-Jan-14 17:47:12

Have you tried doing supply work? It's a great way to add to your CV, and build your confidence.

WantToShop Fri 03-Jan-14 17:47:51

I don't think this is "snake-oil" at all - and considering what you're currently doing isn't working - it might be time to look further afield.

Is it more a self-marketing/what's so great about me? Issue? If yes, see if you can pick up a copy of "blue ocean strategy" on eBay for a couple of quid. It blends psychology and marketing to allow you to distill your unique talents. I.e., 50 people did your course, but what makes your application of the knowledge special?

Coconutty Fri 03-Jan-14 17:50:16

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Kaffiene Fri 03-Jan-14 17:53:36

How many jobs have you applied for in this field and not got an interview for?
What has the feedback been? I think there are plenty of free ways to find out how to fill in an application form. Have you contacted your old tutor and asked them to review your personal statement?

Sorry I am with your DH on this one?

Madambossyboots Fri 03-Jan-14 17:53:37

I would pay either - plenty of this kind of "help" online and at the local library.

BinkieWoo Fri 03-Jan-14 17:54:31

I have never ever heard of someone going on a course like this. I am a teacher btw. This kind of thing is all provided during your training year.

I think the best thing you could do would be to make contact with local schools, even do some voluntary work with them so that if any supply work came up, you'd be familiar to them.

I used to organise in-service training for teachers and this does sound unnecessary at best, dodgy at worst. Sorry sad

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