Ugh......
I'm getting married in June (engaged last February) and am aged 22. I'm actually very chilled about the whole thing - apart from one bridesmaid who is now worrying me slightly...
I have three bridesmaids - my lovely 16 yo DSis who is my Chief BM and a total superstar, my godsister (23) who has known me donkeys years and has always been there despite not loads of contact, and another girl (23) who I met about 5 years ago and was very very close to aka BM3.
Here begineth trouble!
BM3 lives quite close to me whilst the others are further away yet I have less contact with her! We used to hang out and chat a lot. BUT it's all gone downhill and I'm considering asking her to back out. AIBU?
Firstly, she was REALLY difficult about her dress - "I don't do that style" or "I won't consider that colour". Then, we found the dresses and she was insistent she was a 12. Fair enough. Bought it - spent a month asking her to come try it so if it was no good, I could swap it within the warranty. She ignored the texts / calls. Finally came round - dress miles too small and said she wanted 16. Had to go and lie and eventually managed to swap the dress. No sweat, kept very calm.
Then got all 3 BMs to meet - had to go and pick her up and make it later in the day than planned as she'd decided to go visit a friend and "couldn't" rearrange. Friend lives 10 mins away and is unemployed.
Then, invited her to come and try on her dress with my and DSis when I tried on my dress to see how they looked, and arranged to drive her. Arranged a time for her to get to mine - no show - rang and rang and was v. nearly late - she eventually answered and said she's decided to go into work for overtime.
FINALLY tries second dress on and very overly critical about dress being miles too big - fits like a glove.
Anyway, can live with all that but she has now suddenly gone silent - keep inviting her round for tea, offering to meet up - she'll say she's at work doing the early shift so invite her for tea but she can't cause she's "working the late shift". Her office is locked at 8pm but she's "working til 11". I know for a fact she can't.
I don't expect her to do BM chores or anything weird like that but to keep in touch would be nice... or to reply to calls / texts / FB messages / anything! She claims she's not going out and just at work constantly but is constantly tagged / photographed out with friends and won't make time for me.
We paid for expensive designer dresses for them on the proviso that they paid for their shoes and jewellery (£35 in total!) - I texted her to remind her - no reply. Again.
Soon to be DH and DM (And DSis) have said try talking to her but consider ditching... I feel like a total bridezilla! She also throws a strop at the drop of a hat and is very attention seeking - particularly after a drink, which she likes a few of!
Sorry for the long post but I feel really torn... We've got a very big, fancy venue which we are travelling a long way to because it has family significance and I don't want my day being stressed by her.
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AIBU?
To be thinking about sacking a bridesmaid?
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wyldchyld · 29/12/2013 21:49
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