Been separated for 5 years. Reduced payments (but still over the recommended CSA allowance) as I had no money left.
Have now got a bit more money so can treat DS to the occasional meal out and the odd magazine. Not a lot but something.
Ex has just been on the phone complaining that I seem to be treating him when she can't afford to. She moved to a nice area as that was where DS goes to school. It's expensive and that's reflected in her mortgage. Whereas I've been in shared rooms for 4 years before getting my place.
Apparently I'm being insensitive. I do not shower him with stuff but I do have a bit more disposable income - despite giving ex maintenance as I have a cheap mortgage.
I am aware ex does not have much money. I do try to regulate it but DS is pretty much the only person I spend money on.
AIBU to think it's my money?
And as for being insensitve - this is the person who told me she feels sad waking up with DS and not having something to open from Santa so she has to get a Santa present. Yet I have woken up alone for 5 years on Xmas morning without even seeing DS open his presents. And she told me she was upset on Xmas morning. She does not have a clue.
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AIBU?
to think my ex can't tell me what to spend my money on?
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miffedatthis · 26/12/2013 17:55
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