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Why does my DIL not behave badly

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ginslinger · 26/12/2013 16:55

My DIL comes to us for christmas and mucks in with everyone and she doesn't stop me picking up my grandchildren. In fact, she has just had a really nice chat with me and thanked me for her presents. Where am i going wrong? Why can't we have a festive row like everyone else.

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BIWI · 26/12/2013 16:57

Where did it all go wrong, ginslinger?

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PotteringAlong · 26/12/2013 16:57

As a MIL i think you are to blame for this. If she's thanked you for the presents she obviously liked them - you should buy her dreadful presents instead :)

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Gossipmonster · 26/12/2013 16:58

She has probably bitched about you on here all day today Wink.

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ginslinger · 26/12/2013 16:58

I even got her to do some last minute shopping for me because i hadn't been very well. Did she complain? Did she buggery.

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ginslinger · 26/12/2013 16:59

No chance for that gossip - i had her chained to the kitchen sink - she can bitch tomorrow Xmas Grin

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Amrapaali · 26/12/2013 16:59

Did you try telling her to breastfeed if she was FF or vice-versa? That usually works...

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LadyBeagleEyes · 26/12/2013 17:01
Grin
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ginslinger · 26/12/2013 17:01

Oh i never thought of that! Good idea

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gertrudetrain · 26/12/2013 17:04

Your DIL obviously doesn't know about mn...keepnher away!

All you need to do is whisper in your GC ear 'Mummy doesn't know what she's doing, listen to granny and I'll give you chocolate & presents' and you'll get your row Grin

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Utterly · 26/12/2013 17:04

Try criticising her cooking but massively over praising anything she has shop-bought ... you could maybe treat her like a walking womb and not enquire after her if she has already produced grand children ... duplicate presents for the children knowingly ... repeatedly cancel all trips to her house you have arranged after she has done all the hard work? All works a treat, I can assure you!

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insomnicat · 26/12/2013 17:08

Hello MIL :) Waves xx

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GodRestTEEMerryGenTEEmen · 26/12/2013 17:08

What kind of Mother In Law are you? Not one thing you can row about?

You've let yourself down, you've let her down but most importantly, you've let Mumnset down.

::shakes head more in sorrow than anger::

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WoodBurnerBabe · 26/12/2013 17:11

I get on fabulously with my MIL, I must be a sore disappointment to her...

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ImperialBlether · 26/12/2013 17:11

Just patently ignore her. When she asks what the matter is, say that you just can't get past what she said at her wedding. Never clarify what you mean but say the fact she's pretending not to know tells you all you need to know about her character.

That should last a good few years.

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Lweji · 26/12/2013 17:15


She's probably faking all her niceness and is a bitch at heart. Call her on it.
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Lweji · 26/12/2013 17:16

Ah, tell her long stories about past events that you have told her 100 times before and don't ask her once about herself, or your grandchildren. And keep complaining about every one else. And your life.

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wheretoyougonow · 26/12/2013 17:18

Charge her for Christmas dinner. That will soon cause some upset Grin

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SchnitzelVonKrumm · 26/12/2013 17:20

I have this problem with my MIL. It's almost as though she wasn't put on this earth to piss me off.

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Lweji · 26/12/2013 17:21

Charge her for Christmas dinner. That will soon cause some upset

I bet she wouldn't be upset, either. The bitch.

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Anniegetyourgun · 26/12/2013 17:24

I've got one of those DILs. Sweet, witty, artistic, sensible, cooks like an angel, diligent with the observances like cards and thank-yous, recently produced DGS who she encourages us to cuddle regularly. She's definitely up to something. Nobody who is genuinely that nice would have got themselves shackled to any son of mine.

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GodRestTEEMerryGenTEEmen · 26/12/2013 17:27

Me too Scnitzel. Just can't get the mothers in law these days, can you?

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callamia · 26/12/2013 17:28

I sympathise. My mother-in-law is kind, generous and doesn't mind that I've spent more of Christmas sitting on my arse breastfeeding a hungry baby rather than do anything useful or helpful. She also keeps bringing chocolates and cups of tea for me.

It's like they've not read the in-law manual.

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Tweenangst · 26/12/2013 17:30

This thread wins mumsnet tonight!

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ZingChoirsOfAngels · 26/12/2013 17:30

Grin

gin

you are hilarious!

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ginslinger · 26/12/2013 17:33

Well now there's something definitely going on because she only offered me a bloody chocolate. This can't be all my fault

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