I am so effing fed up. They have only been here since monday and are here till 30th December, my BIL (dh brother) SIL and their 18month old toddler and 3 year old ds. I am happy having them, i really don't mind guests normally, but i just feel like they don't give a shit about helping me out in any way.
Just for e.g., twice i have asked them to take their muddy wheeled buggy straight into our utility room from the back yard, and twice they have instead taken the buggy in through the tv room folding doors, which means then wheeling the dirty wheels through the tv room, kitchen, dining room and down the hallway into utility room. i even texted BIL this afternoon to let him know the back door was unlocked for them to take it straight through into utility room, and he texted back ok, but then just took the buggy straight on through as usual through tv room door. This means both yesterday and today i have had to mop and sweep, on top of all the other work involved in hosting xmas dinner for our family of 7 and guests, and all the clean up etc that goes with that.
I was upstairs at the time, otherwise i'd have cheerily asked them to use the other door as they were coming through.
Yesterday BIL kept putting on our heating on constant even though the house was warm, and then he would head off for a few hours and leave the house empty with the heat on full blast.
Yesterday morning after me and my dd had hoovered and mopped all downstairs in prep for xmas day, he went up to the building site where they are building their holiday home and then he came home, and walked through the house and up the stairs to his room, (carpets on stairs and upper floor) and tramped mud the whole way. I then (really reluctantly cos i HATE to feel like a nag and make things awkward ) had to point this out to him and ask him to please take off shoes at door. (we don't normally have a shoes off in house policy unless shoes are muck-caked)
He was apologetic.
He went out an hour later in the same boots, came back in, kept the boots on and i had to ask him again to remove, as i had already had to clean up after him from the other time.
I just feel so pissed off, tired, fed up and bloody annoyed that i have to ask more than once for him to do things that my 5 year old would know to do, that all my 5 dc would know to do, and then he doesn't even bloody do it.
I want to be a welcoming host, but i have my limits. Xmas is a busy enough song without having all this extra unnecessary work and awkwardness.
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Am so fed up with my house guests i feel like crying!
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Lisavarna · 25/12/2013 21:49
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