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I'm so stupid!

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dontwanttobefatandforty Wed 25-Dec-13 17:25:08

Only in aibu as I can't find chat, never posted from my phone before.
I am at present sat in a car park alone and bloody freezing because I have just walked out of the house over the most stupid of things but now feel so so stupid and will have ruined dinner as we haven't eaten yet. I just can't face going back! I don't know why I do these things, I regret when I do and I know it's an over reaction but I just can't seem to stop myself from doing it sad

Buzzardisnotina4birdroast Wed 25-Dec-13 17:26:29

Have you been drinking?

MammaTJ Wed 25-Dec-13 17:27:24

If you are sure it is an over reaction, a sheepish text or phone call to say you know that and you are sorry, then return home.

The longer you leave it, the bigger a deal it will be. Get it over with, then get on with your day.

Janethegirl Wed 25-Dec-13 17:27:57

It's Christmas and if you've been doing all the prep and cooking, you're allowed to flip your lid if the rest are taking the piss.

landrover Wed 25-Dec-13 17:28:40

Go back, put big repentant face on, big Sorry and lots of hugs, it will be fine fsmile

marvindarvin Wed 25-Dec-13 17:29:17

Take a deep breath, realise that at this moment, right now your day (evening) can go one of two ways. You can continue down the track you're on, or you can take a few more calming breathes, go back inside with a message of reconciliation, and don't veer from that message even if the people inside are still angry/annoyed at you/the situation.

Go back inside now, and have a nice evening. In a few hours the tiff you've had will have faded (it might still sting a little) but from the sound of it you'll regret it much more if you continue down the current track.

You can change the course of the day - go and sort it out now.

dontwanttobefatandforty Wed 25-Dec-13 17:29:18

No, I just over react, I truly don't get why I do it.

FunkyBoldRibena Wed 25-Dec-13 17:30:48

Get back indoors in the warm now!

Go home. Admit you were wrong. Say sorry. Hug anyone who'll be hugged. Get on with Christmas.

marvindarvin Wed 25-Dec-13 17:31:38

p.s. my message above only applies if you've walked out of something genuinely stupid - people not appreciating your efforts (etc) isn't necessarily in that bracket.

But even if it was something like that, storming out and sitting in a car park, freezing and miserable isn't the right way either. not least because if the storming out is from some unreasonable behavior by others you deserve better.

In short - sitting alone with regrets in a car part isn't what you should be doing right now, no matter if your grievances are genuine or you've just been a bit daft.

Go back inside, love, and work it out another way smile

dontwanttobefatandforty Wed 25-Dec-13 17:31:43

I so need to go back don't I? I'm just so embarrassed about it all, I guess I could hold onto the hope that I'm predictable now and it's expected of me!

picnicbasketcase Wed 25-Dec-13 17:32:14

Next time maybe just go into another room to calm down inside of driving off.

landrover Wed 25-Dec-13 17:33:46

Be embarrassed, thats fine, you will be able to laugh about it later, but not if you leave it too long, then people will be worried about you! Go back! I will hold your hand xxxx

mermaidbutmytailfelloff Wed 25-Dec-13 17:34:30

Deep breath and go back in.

Then tomorrow think about what happened and come back here if you need to.

Unless this is about domestic violence.

landrover Wed 25-Dec-13 17:34:42

Holding your hand right NOW !!!!! Go back quick xxxxxxxxx

marvindarvin Wed 25-Dec-13 17:35:02

Don't let embarassment stop you going back and admitting a mistake - every moment you're outside in the car park just makes it worse.

Go back in, be humble, hug everyone, and work on other options for next time (there are a few very good books whcih can explain techniques if you're someone who's naturally fairly volatile; they don't mean you'll turn into a doormat, I'm basically trying to explain that there's a third way where you can get yourself heard but also don't involve sitting in freezing car parks on Xmas day!).

Post back once you've got back inside, and made some amends. Whoever is waiting for you may be annoyed but they'll calm down if you stick to the message that you're sorry and realise you've over-reated, and will work on coping mechanisms for next time.


landrover Wed 25-Dec-13 17:37:38

Let us know how it went when you have a mo xxxxxx have a lovely evening xx

mermaidbutmytailfelloff Wed 25-Dec-13 17:38:37

Good advice from Marvin so long as you are safe OP

Go, we're all holding your hand (I have the wine bottle.....)

marvindarvin Wed 25-Dec-13 17:42:55

Yes, my post above should be read with the caveat that if this is about something really serious (not just you being daft/impulsive/etc) like domestic violence, please let us know and we can help out in other ways. but if it is for something silly, my advice applies smile

(i once walked out of the house during an argument over a spilled cup of coffee, boy did that one grow out of all porportion! (and I was the one who'd spilled it - felt under attack but it was basically due to annoyance at myself that I got so angry) Daft me! I realised in the end what an idiot i was being though!)

milk Wed 25-Dec-13 17:44:56

Go back in, assert your authority: You are the mother. You can do what ever you want and no one can ever question you!

landrover Wed 25-Dec-13 17:46:15

Big Hugs xx

dontwanttobefatandforty Wed 25-Dec-13 17:56:19

I have come in, he actually called me as I pulled into the drive to say dinner is nearly done, awkward but I'm indoors, thanks everyone

landrover Wed 25-Dec-13 17:57:44

So pleased for you, well done, have a lovely evening xxxxx

mermaidbutmytailfelloff Wed 25-Dec-13 18:00:13

Huge hugs

MammaTJ Wed 25-Dec-13 18:59:33

Glad it worked out.

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