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AIBU?

Dp 'forgot' to get me a 'To Mummy . . ' christmas card from DS

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Sisterelephant · 25/12/2013 08:30

I put it on my list of presents and reminded him about 4 times throughout the month.

Got him a really lovely daddy one that he opened this morning, I'd put some nice words in about being a great daddy too.

He casually said to me 'oh I forgot your card, sorry'

I'm sooo upset, I'm now in a mood with him, he doesn't see the fuss. He also forgot to get me a card from DS for my birthday, and I had got him a lovely daddy one.

AIBU? Or is he?

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RVPisnomore · 25/12/2013 08:31

I think you might well be a little upset but I'd also say it's just a card and so not worth being in a mood on Xmas day over!
It's childish to sulk too.

dexter73 · 25/12/2013 08:32

Don't let such a small thing ruin your day. Put it out of your mind and just enjoy Christmas!

helterskelter99 · 25/12/2013 08:33

If it's important to you then he is bad to have forgotten I haven't got one & don't mind as for me it will be more important when he can scribble on them which he can't do yet
Merry Xmas don't let it spoil your day x

ARealPickle · 25/12/2013 08:33

He might not really be into cards. Mention it in a few weeks time but don't let it spill today.

LoopyLobster · 25/12/2013 08:33

Seriously, you want a card from a baby and you're upset it didn't happen? Grip needed.

ARealPickle · 25/12/2013 08:34

Ps it truly is lovely v when they are older and can do their own.

notanotherusername1 · 25/12/2013 08:37

Please come to your senses.

No one is being unreasonable. It's only a card. Just look around and see the trauma some people are having today. Plenty of people have a ruined Christmas due to the weather ruining their plans.

If you have to ask and remind it does not sound like it would be special anyway.

Honestly forget it and give them both a hug. It's Christmas Day. Not time for moods.

Squeegle · 25/12/2013 08:37

Sorry but YABU. Enjoy your child and your day. It sounds like the card thing is not important to you DH, and while that's disappointing, surely it means no more than that.

ThurlHoHoHow · 25/12/2013 08:37

Don't let it ruin your day. I suspect DP has forgotten too! Never mind. It's a bit irritating but not the end of the world.

TheGreatHunt · 25/12/2013 08:37

Tell him (tomorrow) why it matters to you.
How old is ds? If he's a baby then you're a bit u!

oldbaghere · 25/12/2013 08:39

I have no presents to open. I'm here on my own. My kids will be here later to open their presents and we will go to visit my mother tomorrow who is dying.

In the nicest possible way you need to get a grip.

Squeegle · 25/12/2013 08:39

Sorry but YABU. Enjoy your child and your day. It sounds like the card thing is not important to you DH, and while that's disappointing, surely it means no more than that.

mrscog · 25/12/2013 08:41

Meh YABU over the card - it won't be off your DS if he's not old enough to write it so it's completely fake, YANBU to be annoyed with your DH for ignoring something that was important to you.

MissMarplesBloomers · 25/12/2013 08:42

Never see the point of cards to folks you are seeing on Christmas Day TBH.

If you are with them you can give your love & wishes in person, far nicer!

BikeRunSki · 25/12/2013 08:44

I didn't get any cards or presents from anyone apart from MiL. She gave gave me a supermarket scented candle.

LumpySpacePrincessOhMyGlob · 25/12/2013 08:45

Yabu. Wait till ds is old enough to write his own card.

BikeRunSki · 25/12/2013 08:45

Posted too soon...

I'll live though. DH might not.

waterlego6064 · 25/12/2013 08:46

Yes, grip needed I think. Perspective. My parents died this year; I couldn't give a fuck about cards or presents. Because that isn't what Christmas is about- really it isn't. A friend of mine is in hospital today; another friend's daughter is seriously ill but has been allowed home from hospital for the day. Plenty of people have genuine reason to be sad and cross today.

Enjoy your day. Be glad that you have a happy and healthy child to spend Christmas with.

Sisterelephant · 25/12/2013 08:47

Oh dear.

Ok grip taken. I need to get over it. Thank you MN for making me see sense!

Merry Christmas!

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JapaneseMargaret · 25/12/2013 08:47

I'm assuming this is a reverse AIBU, because nobody rationale would get into a sulk on Christmas Eve over something like this.

JapaneseMargaret · 25/12/2013 08:50

OK, not a reverse.

Well done on seeing sense.

HissymasJumper · 25/12/2013 08:53

The only card worth a damn is the ones your DS will make you himself!

Have a lovely day! :)

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HissymasJumper · 25/12/2013 08:53

*are not is

WandaDoff · 25/12/2013 09:00

If he knew it was important to you, then he should have made the effort.

Don't let it spoil your Christmas though, it's going to be a very long day if the hostilities start this early.

Chocovore · 25/12/2013 09:09

He still has time to make one! Drop a not so subtle hint!

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