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AIBU?

I may be a tad u

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koTinkaBell · 23/12/2013 20:21

I'm basically annoyed with my H tonight because I've had the kids all day and no grown ups to talk to, when he came home, he's all at me trying to chat with him. I've left him with the kids and rather than take to me, he's kept them up late. I feel a bit childish sulking, but I feel really ignored.

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koTinkaBell · 23/12/2013 20:22

talk, not take! And I appear to have forgotten how to use sentences, sorry, I'm that annoyed

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CuriosityCola · 23/12/2013 20:25

How old are your kids? I don't think yabu as I do this too. Sometimes, my dh asks me if I need to breath as I just chatter endlessly from him arriving home

koTinkaBell · 23/12/2013 20:28

8 & 9, minecraft addicts

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ILoveAFullFridge · 23/12/2013 20:29

Commiserations.

I read somewhere than men need to speak some 3000-4000 words per day in order to fulfill their need for communication, whereas women need to speak 10000 words per day. Which is why what you describe is so common . He won't have a clue why you're grumpy.

Sometimes men need to unwind silently, when you need to unwind verbally, or even just to talk, they appear to be on a completely different planet to us. I try not to jump all over dh when he comes home, but boy do I talk to/with/at him later!

koTinkaBell · 23/12/2013 20:29

cola, yes I may have been rattling on a bit

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koTinkaBell · 23/12/2013 20:34

Ilove, he has no idea. he's just popped in (2 hours after the fact) and said " sorry I upset you" but he doesn't know why I'm annoyed. Can't be arsed explaining, it'll just get me more peeved.

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ILoveAFullFridge · 23/12/2013 20:42

At least he realised and apologised. Unprompted?

Do you still want to chat with him?

Can you say to him "My brain is fried from constant kiddy-talk today. I need to have a proper conversation with an adult, now."? Or similar.

ILoveAFullFridge · 23/12/2013 20:42

Oh, and together is good.

ILoveAFullFridge · 23/12/2013 20:43

Or even .

weeblueberry · 23/12/2013 20:44

What sort of day has he had?

koTinkaBell · 23/12/2013 20:48

weeblueberry, quiet as his office is winding down. Let's just say he hasn't had a day cooking, cleaning and mediating brawls, so I think he's doing ok.

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pinklady1107 · 23/12/2013 20:48

Yabu.

Had the kids all day on my own, have this evening on my own, all day on my own with kids again tomorrow, again tomorrow night and then Xmas morning on my own until at least 12 ish.

Not even anyone to pass a hello my way. Only adult ill likely see in three days is the tesco delivery driver and the weather is so bad here even that looks unlikely tonight

koTinkaBell · 23/12/2013 20:51

pinklady, you definitely have it harder than me, but does that mean I'm automatically unreasonable because someone else is worse off?

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koTinkaBell · 23/12/2013 20:57

Are you on your own with the kids for the whole Christmas pinklady?

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pinklady1107 · 23/12/2013 20:58

No it doesn't, but wish there was just another adult around to even smile at. Don't have family nearby, friends all with family. The days feel long and your post hit a nerve.

Sorry.

pinklady1107 · 23/12/2013 21:02

No not on my own all Xmas have got people Xmas afternoon, may visit visit my work colleagues tomorrow - with a box of biscuits so we will stay for a cuppa

Joysmum · 23/12/2013 21:02

He has as many rights as you. You've had a pants days and want to talk, he's had a pants day and doesn't.

koTinkaBell · 23/12/2013 21:04

nah, I was being ratty you're right, appreciate the good etc,

how are you managing doing it all on your own?

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koTinkaBell · 23/12/2013 21:06

joys, yup, guess I was wrong to hope for a bit of company. Not to worry, at least he's useful. he's cleaning the oven

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pinklady1107 · 23/12/2013 21:12

By placing no pressure on myself

Plenty of when tesco turn up and mn! Although I shouldn't have been ratty pls accept apologies it's horrible when you want to let off steam and the other person doesn't!

koTinkaBell · 23/12/2013 21:14

I really hope tesco's turn up for you! you'll need the

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koTinkaBell · 23/12/2013 21:17

think I'll go and Google Terry wogan's knob, that'll lift me spirits

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koTinkaBell · 24/12/2013 09:20

any luck with the shopping delivery, pinklady?

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pinklady1107 · 24/12/2013 12:26

Yes thankyou was just over half hr late so not bad!

Hope your Dh being better today

koTinkaBell · 24/12/2013 17:50

yes, all ok, had a half day off so he's in a better mood.

now we just have to get the kids to sleep tonight so "Santa" can come. they still believe in him. what age are yours?

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