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Punkatheart Wed 18-Dec-13 15:31:51

Just a quick one. I am not usually a hug person but I feel a bit lost and overwhelmed at the moment. Too much going on - including daughter under therapy which includes sleeping pills, some serious scheduled tests which will include a scan of her uterus, radiotherapy for me next year and ex forcing us to sell the house. If it was one thing - it's easier - but they are coming at me like fireworks in the face.

Obsessed now with making Christmas perfect. Just tried to clean the kitchen and I am so exhausted. But determined.

So can I have a hug please?

lougle Wed 18-Dec-13 15:32:43

Have a hug. Christmas doesn't need to be perfect - give yourself a break.

Rissolesfortea Wed 18-Dec-13 15:34:05

Sending you a hug, hope things get better for you soon.

Middleagedmotheroftwo Wed 18-Dec-13 15:35:25

No need to make Christmas perfect under any circumstances, but particulary when you're going through such a hard time. Relax and enjoy the time off (if you can) and recharge your batteries.

Big hugs and thanks

AMuppetChristmasCorral Wed 18-Dec-13 15:35:28

Here's one from me. I can't imagine how overwhelming it must be having all of that at once. Have some brew and cake as well...

Lilicat1013 Wed 18-Dec-13 15:37:29

Sending a hug I hope things get easier soon x

ProfondoRosso Wed 18-Dec-13 15:37:46

Big hug for you and flowers

It's impossible for Christmas to be perfect, so don't put pressure on yourself. Just be kind to yourself.

DidoTheDodo Wed 18-Dec-13 15:40:26

A hug for you (( ))

Buy all the food you can ready prepared. it really doesn't matter.

CynicalandSmug Wed 18-Dec-13 15:41:09


tinselytinselymum Wed 18-Dec-13 15:41:39

Another hug from me.

Don't aim for perfect - it ain't gonna happen (for anyone!) and you'd just beat yourself up. Aim for enjoyable smile

thebody Wed 18-Dec-13 15:41:41

Huge huge hug. Christmas is never perfect.

Hugs to you and you dd. keep posting for any help and support. flowers

MrsTerrysChocolateOrange Wed 18-Dec-13 15:53:46


Chin up love. I had to say that to balance the hug.

MarjorieChardem Wed 18-Dec-13 15:58:39

Sending you a huge hug, that all sounds really tough. Here's to good stuff coming your way xx

cjel Wed 18-Dec-13 16:01:57

YADNBU - Sometimes I just cry when all I could do with is a hug.


I wouldn't clean, just put more christmas stuff aroundfsmile eat chocolates and watch tvxx

Heathcliff27 Wed 18-Dec-13 16:06:30

Heres a hug from me too.

Pop the kettle on and put your feet up for half an hour.

Its so difficult when everything piles on top of us. If i'm able to I usually do the 30 min task then 30 min rest routine.

Other days I just do the rest routine...

FatherHankTree Wed 18-Dec-13 16:25:41

Here's a (((((((((hug))))))))

SayMyNameSayIt Wed 18-Dec-13 17:00:51

Here's another wee hug. I'm sorry you're having such a tough time and I get why you're having a cleaning frenzy etc, it's about trying to regain/retain some measure of control when everything else has hit the fan. It's the kind of thing I used to do as well.

However, if you can, sit down and have a rest. Like others say, buy ready made stuff. Get some chocs down you. Perfection is no use if you're shattered. Which you will be, emotionally and physically.

This is the time to be looking after yourself and nurturing g each other. A quick tidy is fine. So long as the place LOOKS reasonable, it'll be fine. I used to scrub the house top to bottom before Christmas and new year. Got 2 DS now and it's practically impossible to get the chance, even if I had the energy!!!

Can you have a wee glass of wine??? It always takes the edge off things for me! I hope things get better and unless you're having people for Christmas, then your family would rather see you relaxing rather than scrubbing ! And any guests will just need to take you as they find you!

you can write your name in the dust here, just font write the date

SayMyNameSayIt Wed 18-Dec-13 17:01:53

don't write the date

Punkatheart Wed 18-Dec-13 17:04:06

Thank you all for the lovely hugs. I still feel tired but I do feel loved. Heathcliff - I do the 30 mins work and then rest - it does work!

Heathcliff27 Wed 18-Dec-13 17:24:18

Yep its a winning formula. Little bit at a time. Run a nice bath, if you have one, get a trashy informative magazine and immerse.

Heathcliff27 Wed 18-Dec-13 17:26:23

I also do the iron clothes during the soaps routine, no ironing allowed during adverts. I have many winning formulas [big grin]

Heathcliff27 Wed 18-Dec-13 17:26:49


SpottyDottie Wed 18-Dec-13 17:30:31

A huge hug to you. Don't try to make anything 'perfect' flowers

BabyMummy29 Wed 18-Dec-13 17:34:22

Consider yourself hugged smile

Punkatheart Thu 19-Dec-13 13:13:59

I feel now as if I may collapse. My daughter has officially been thrown out of college. Her attendance has fallen to such a point that she cannot catch up and it would not be in her best interest to continue.

What the hell do I do now?

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